New Years Trip with Friends

[Anonymous]

I met 2 moms whose oldest kids were born at the same time as mine and we became good friends. I have a girl, the two others have boys. Our families hung out a ton when the kids were little but we have grown apart since the kids all ended up at different schools. Us parents have kept in touch and go out to dinner 2-3 times per year, and us moms text regularly (the dads really are pretty friendly too). Our oldest are now 10/4th grade, but really haven’t hung out at all for like 5 years.

One of the moms reached out invite us all to her parents’ cabin for New Years as they will be away. It could be really fun since it’s always impossible to get a sitter on NYE so we generally don’t do anything.

The problem is that my daughter really doesn’t want to go since both other families have boys her age and then younger boys who are 7/8. My DD is an only and feels like she will have no one to hang with the whole weekend. The other boys are friendly since they play on a sports team together, and have more in common.

DH thinks we should go on the trip because it will be fun to hang with the other families for a few days, but I am really hesitant because I don’t think DD will enjoy it.

What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Go. Your daughter will have fun. She is just a little unsure right now but will end up
Hanging with all the kids and enjoying herself.

[Anonymous]

That's an awkward age too be stuck with boys you don't really know anymore. I don't think you're wrong to consider that. Perhaps you can ask the mom what types of activities are planned for the kids. Some girls would fit in with the boys effortlessly but some would be very uncomfortable, especially if they are rowdy. If you go, think about contingencies like a quiet room where she can watch movies or her hanging with the adults.

[Anonymous]

I would bring a friend for your daughter. That gives another couple a chance to do something for NYE as well, given the sitter issue you mentioned (which I totally understand). Win win!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would bring a friend for your daughter. That gives another couple a chance to do something for NYE as well, given the sitter issue you mentioned (which I totally understand). Win win!

OP was invited by another family. It's not a shared rental. It would be rude to bring an extra guest that the host doesn't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's an awkward age too be stuck with boys you don't really know anymore. I don't think you're wrong to consider that. Perhaps you can ask the mom what types of activities are planned for the kids. Some girls would fit in with the boys effortlessly but some would be very uncomfortable, especially if they are rowdy. If you go, think about contingencies like a quiet room where she can watch movies or her hanging with the adults.

Definitely talk to the host but I would lean towards going. It's only a couple of days. I get together with alot of college friends over New Year's and the kids range in ages and some are closer to each other than others but they usually find a way to play together. But I also have a DD that likes hanging out with boys and girls.

[Anonymous]

I would go. Its okay if your DD gets annoyed by all the boys and hangs out in her room for a bit. We travels with a group of families on occasion and the kids sometimes splinter or a kid will hang out by themselves. Just don't try to force them to be all together all the time.

[Anonymous]

I would go. Growing up we had family friends that had all boys. There was a stage when I would grumble about seeing them, and the first few minutes were awkward since it had been a year, but we always had a blast once we were together. We made up games and put on ridiculous performances for our parents. Just pack or suggest some activities you know she’ll enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Would it be fun for her to spend NYE with her favorite relative?

Or, since these are long-term friends, ask if she can bring a friend. I know it's rude to ask to add a person but I think it it's OK if you don't insist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would bring a friend for your daughter. That gives another couple a chance to do something for NYE as well, given the sitter issue you mentioned (which I totally understand). Win win!

OP was invited by another family. It's not a shared rental. It would be rude to bring an extra guest that the host doesn't know.

You don't know what the living situation is. If OP's DD was going to have her own room then what difference would it make if she brought a friend? OP can ask.

[Anonymous]

So you're seriously considering not doing a trip that you're both excited about because your daughter thinks she won't have fun?

Isn't that catering a bit much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would bring a friend for your daughter. That gives another couple a chance to do something for NYE as well, given the sitter issue you mentioned (which I totally understand). Win win!

OP was invited by another family. It's not a shared rental. It would be rude to bring an extra guest that the host doesn't know.

You don't know what the living situation is. If OP's DD was going to have her own room then what difference would it make if she brought a friend? OP can ask.

Honestly I'm appalled anyone would think this was okay. OP do not even think of doing this. It's so rude.

[Anonymous]

Side note: who plans this far in advance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would bring a friend for your daughter. That gives another couple a chance to do something for NYE as well, given the sitter issue you mentioned (which I totally understand). Win win!

OP was invited by another family. It's not a shared rental. It would be rude to bring an extra guest that the host doesn't know.

You don't know what the living situation is. If OP's DD was going to have her own room then what difference would it make if she brought a friend? OP can ask.

Honestly I'm appalled anyone would think this was okay. OP do not even think of doing this. It's so rude.

Ok. Some of us wouldn't be bothered by this in the slightest and would totally understand as OP's child is the only girl. So, lucky for her you don't have a cabin to which you invite people I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's an awkward age too be stuck with boys you don't really know anymore. I don't think you're wrong to consider that. Perhaps you can ask the mom what types of activities are planned for the kids. Some girls would fit in with the boys effortlessly but some would be very uncomfortable, especially if they are rowdy. If you go, think about contingencies like a quiet room where she can watch movies or her hanging with the adults.

I can't imagine asking someone who invited me to a cabin 7 months from now what activities she has planned for the children.

I also can't imagine planning activities for a group of kids who are going to be at a cabin.

Trust that your daughter can handle herself.

Trust that if she doesn't have fun, that it's okay. She can handle discomfort. It doesn't all have to be orchestrated for her!