Online dating after 50 for women - worth it?
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Anonymous
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Title says it all…anyone have good/bad experiences, and any recommendations on which sites are/are not good?
Divorced, good job, grown kids, good shape, well presented. |
Anonymous
| (shrug) good luck meeting anyone any other way. |
Anonymous
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Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.
What are you waiting for? |
Anonymous
For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50? |
Anonymous
OP here, interesting reactions from you both. To the guy - nice to hear that being in shape as a 54yo that’s had 3 kids (meaning as good as i can get it without surgery) is valued. To the respondent, yes, agree ‘huge’ seems a bit daunting. Yet I imagine it’s also pretty honest. Hopefully the guy is looking for more than that. ;-0 |
Anonymous
| 50YO woman here (fit, attractive, well educated, financially secure). I think it really depends if you can keep your expectations low and not take it personally. I dont get a ton of likes from people I would consider dating, and I dont have a great response rate when I reach out first, and it can be frustrating to match and have messages with someone that seems promising just peter out - so the whole thing can be demoralizing. But I intentionally set tight filters so I have to keep that in mind, and I also met someone I like recently. |
Anonymous
He means "don't be fat." Yes, that's HUGE. No pun intended. |
Anonymous
+1. The reality is that about 90% of men over 50 are not fit, balding, have erectile issues etc. and women usually are happy to consider these things relatively unimportant. |
Anonymous
I’m a 45 year old married woman, so pardon me for budding in, but as a very fit person, I would consider being fit important if I were on the market. I genuinely don’t mind baldness, and erectile issues can usually be dealt with. |
Anonymous
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OP I have some friends who have dated in their 50s with meh to very good results, so I think there is some hope but I wouldn’t stake my happiness on it.
This is such a great time of life to explore yourself, and all the things that interest you. If you meet someone via a shared experiential interest like hiking or kayaking or birding or ballroom dancing etc., that would be a very nice bonus but in the meantime you’re doing an activity that you love which leaves you feeling good either way. Also if you haven’t got one already, get a dog. |
Anonymous
Those men can date the fat women. Men and women that take care of themselves and are in good shape will swipe left on a dating app for people that might consider in real life. |
Anonymous
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OLD is biased towards superficiality?
🤔 First I’m hearing of this. |
Anonymous
| OP here thanks for all the posts! Doesn't sound promising though so I am guessing not many success stories out there. Will take both pieces of advice - try Bumble with filters, and just enjoy myself! |
Anonymous
| 50 year old man here. I’ve been in two amazing LTRs through OLD, have met a ton of interesting ladies, and have generally had fun while doing it (all while not being a total man ho) True, at first, it was a hit to my ego, but once I got some good pics and a decent summary, things really opened up for me so to speak. Just spend a little time getting to know someone up front. I found that if I was able to easily banter and connect with someone via text, then 9 times out of 10 the date went well. |
Anonymous
Thanks 50yo man - good advice - though wondering what not being a total man means! 
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