DD is obsessed with boyfriends

[Anonymous]

DD16 is constantly complaining about wanting a boyfriend and I’m getting fed up. She is allowed to have one, so I don’t know what the issue is. She has zero romantic experience.

Apparently “all” her friends have boyfriends/girlfriends and she feels left out and like no one is interested in her. I wouldn’t care except for the fact that it has become the subject of most of our conversations. This really gets on my nerves.

When I try to convince her that there are more important things in life than a high school boyfriend, she gets mad and calls me stupid and annoying. Sorry if this sounds rant-y.

[Anonymous]

This is an extension of your parenting.

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to talk her out of wanting romantic love. Do active listening. "Sounds like you're really feeling left out of this stage of life." Ask her what personality traits she wants in a boyfriend. Talk to her about control, abuse and manipulation within the context of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Is she pretty?

I have two boys and they often think most girls are not attractive. Maybe the dating ratio also is in play in high school. 80% of boys want 20% of girls.

[Anonymous]

My niece is like this and she is annoying TF out of everyone with her boy crazy talk. No suggestions re: how to handle as we get to leave and come home to escape it. (She's the sweetest kid but this aspect of her started in the last year and it is obnoxious).

[Anonymous]

Usually in a group of girls, there is a girl who is less attractive and the boys don’t want like her. Maybe that is why she feels bad and left out. I personally wouldn’t want my teen daughter to date but I could see why she feels left out.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s really special that she can be that vulnerable with you to discuss this. I would just listen and empathize and continue the conversation. Girls like this can be easy to take advantage of bc they can be a little desperate for attention and affection so talking her through that first relationship will be important.

[Anonymous]

just listen to her and let her vent.

you don't have to fix anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually in a group of girls, there is a girl who is less attractive and the boys don’t want like her. Maybe that is why she feels bad and left out. I personally wouldn’t want my teen daughter to date but I could see why she feels left out.

I remember my mom telling me if I wanted a boyfriend to always make sure I was the prettiest in any group of friends I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My niece is like this and she is annoying TF out of everyone with her boy crazy talk. No suggestions re: how to handle as we get to leave and come home to escape it. (She's the sweetest kid but this aspect of her started in the last year and it is obnoxious).

+1

[Anonymous]

Where is dad?

[Anonymous]

Does she have ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually in a group of girls, there is a girl who is less attractive and the boys don’t want like her. Maybe that is why she feels bad and left out. I personally wouldn’t want my teen daughter to date but I could see why she feels left out.

I remember my mom telling me if I wanted a boyfriend to always make sure I was the prettiest in any group of friends I had.

I never talked to my mom about this stuff. I made out with a lot of cute boys in high school.

If Op actually wanted to help her daughter, she could help her look her best. This is the same if she is 16, 30 or 45. If you are not attracting men, you probably are not looking attractive.

[Anonymous]

Does she have a crush on any boys?

A lot of boys also want a girlfriend in the abstract but don’t bother getting to know any individual girls. It’s just as lame the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she pretty?

I have two boys and they often think most girls are not attractive. Maybe the dating ratio also is in play in high school. 80% of boys want 20% of girls.

What kind of response is this? Stay off this forum. Who cares what your sons think? Do better.