school and low demands

[Anonymous]

I have a kid with really challenging behaviors, especially when given demands. As a result school has stopped making a lot of demands on him. He is allowed to walk the halls, chose alternate activities. When given a demand, he gets mad, upset and doesn't do the work and then causes a lot more difficulty. He is in fourth grade. Are there any schools that are skilled in working with this type of kid? He is really smart and if he falls behind he is able to catch up. He just is demand avoidant.

[Anonymous]

Where is he on the autism spectrum?

[Anonymous]

I can understand why ceasing to place demands on him helps short term. What is the plan to help him be able to face basic demands in the future?

[Anonymous]

My kid has been at RICA for a few years. They are very skilled at scaffolding kids over time to be able to learn to endure less preferred activities. They help with frustration tolerance, emotional regulation, appropriate expressions, etc. They have been able to accelerate my 2e child using the MCPS curriculum.

[Anonymous]

If he is on the spectrum I'd look at Ivymount or Diener.

[Anonymous]

He is not diagnosed on the spectrum but is suspected. He has a PANS diagnosis which can look like Autism. He has behavior challenges, will Ivymount or Diener consider him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid with really challenging behaviors, especially when given demands. As a result school has stopped making a lot of demands on him. He is allowed to walk the halls, chose alternate activities. When given a demand, he gets mad, upset and doesn't do the work and then causes a lot more difficulty. He is in fourth grade. Are there any schools that are skilled in working with this type of kid? He is really smart and if he falls behind he is able to catch up. He just is demand avoidant.

Sounds like he is in the right school. What do you want to be different?

[Anonymous]

A close friend whose child was having particularly difficulty adapting to the demands of school has chosen to homeschool. Very much a 2e child who is bright and has no academic or social impairments, but does struggle with a PDA presentation of autism.

We have a child who also struggled with demands and transitions, but is not yet elementary school aged so no personal advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid with really challenging behaviors, especially when given demands. As a result school has stopped making a lot of demands on him. He is allowed to walk the halls, chose alternate activities. When given a demand, he gets mad, upset and doesn't do the work and then causes a lot more difficulty. He is in fourth grade. Are there any schools that are skilled in working with this type of kid? He is really smart and if he falls behind he is able to catch up. He just is demand avoidant.

Sounds like he is in the right school. What do you want to be different?

No PP or OP.

This is my kid. We are in the most amazing non-public but…PDA is still PDA and demands are everywhere in a school setting.

We really need a PDA/2e type school in the DMV. We know so many families struggling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A close friend whose child was having particularly difficulty adapting to the demands of school has chosen to homeschool. Very much a 2e child who is bright and has no academic or social impairments, but does struggle with a PDA presentation of autism.

We have a child who also struggled with demands and transitions, but is not yet elementary school aged so no personal advice.

What is PDA presentation of autism?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid with really challenging behaviors, especially when given demands. As a result school has stopped making a lot of demands on him. He is allowed to walk the halls, chose alternate activities. When given a demand, he gets mad, upset and doesn't do the work and then causes a lot more difficulty. He is in fourth grade. Are there any schools that are skilled in working with this type of kid? He is really smart and if he falls behind he is able to catch up. He just is demand avoidant.

Sounds like he is in the right school. What do you want to be different?

No PP or OP.

This is my kid. We are in the most amazing non-public but…PDA is still PDA and demands are everywhere in a school setting.

We really need a PDA/2e type school in the DMV. We know so many families struggling.

I have a PDA kid and I can't imagine what the value of a low or no demand school would be, for my kid. Basically unschooling in a building? I don't want that for my DC.

[Anonymous]

I’m a teacher, and I currently have a student with PDA, and it is really hard to manage in a school setting. I know the research on what works best for kids with PDA, but I find it nearly impossible to implement in the general ed classroom. I’m impressed, OP, that your child’s school is able to tolerate so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A close friend whose child was having particularly difficulty adapting to the demands of school has chosen to homeschool. Very much a 2e child who is bright and has no academic or social impairments, but does struggle with a PDA presentation of autism.

We have a child who also struggled with demands and transitions, but is not yet elementary school aged so no personal advice.

Responding appropriately to demands is a critical social skill. It's not possible for a kid to have PDA and no social impairments. It's like saying "my kid is blind and has no visual impairments."

[Anonymous]

My kid is similar and is doing great at Diener.

[Anonymous]

I think Waldorf would be good for pda kids. Lots of hands on stuff. Or some sort of unstructured schooling . I also think something like commonwealth with all of its structure around each class.