Spouse Booked Beach House W/O Consulting Me

[Anonymous]

So, we head to the OBX every year for a week. We book way in advance because we have dogs and are pretty set in our ways on preferences. This limits, severely, the number of houses that will work for us. We usually have the house by Thanksgiving but didn't this year because of a million things going on. Well last week they were moaning that we screwed up and wouldn't have any beach time so they started looking. There were literally no houses that met all criteria- mainly a certain week, dog friendly and either sound front or ocean front.

Oh well, right?

Well they just texted that they put a non refundable deposit on a three lots back dump that I'd never have ever ever ever agreed to.

Am I right to be livid?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Livid? What exactly is your concern?

[Anonymous]

No, you don't have a right to be livid. You should have booked by Thanksgiving, spouse did the best they could with what was available.

[Anonymous]

yeah you're bonkers.

[Anonymous]

This is par for the course for us. We’d be saying thank you for taking care of it.

[Anonymous]

Livid? Lighten up lady. Don't go and let them have a nice time without you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the responses to the OP, but can say I would be upset if my DH made a big financial decision like booking a vacation without me. It sounded like OP thought the vacation was off since they hadn’t booked in time. It’s weird to book a non refundable trip without running it past your spouse.

I recently booked a beach trip for my family, narrowed it down to 3 house rentals. DH and I then discussed and I booked. This should be a joint decision.

[Anonymous]

I don't think livid is the right word. I'd be annoyed if my spouse booked something that they knew (or should have known) I would not like. A dumpy house three blocks from the beach would be an example of something I would not like. Knowing this, I'd be annoyed that my spouse trapped us into such a rental. But I don't think I'd be livid about it.

[Anonymous]

Livid? No. Maybe annoyed it’s not that good of a rental, but not livid at all.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like someone needed to take the plunge. Boo hoo you'll be walking three blocks to the beach.

[Anonymous]

Every day this board makes me understand why people were so keen to lop off the heads of the wealthy.

[Anonymous]

I would be mad too. Something like that should be a joint decision, especially if it's non-refundable. It's great that spouse took the initiative to find something, that is AMAZING. but they should have run the idea by the other spouse before putting down money they cant get back.

[Anonymous]

If it was nonrefundable, we would have consulted each other before booking. But I would try to let it go and be grateful that the spouse took charge when I didn't.

[Anonymous]

Classis troll move to not identify if spouse is husband or wife.