What to send family whose mom has cancer

[Anonymous]

I would like to send a meal for a family whose mom has cancer. A gift card seems so impersonal. I want to send something but not sure what.

[Anonymous]

Avoid the Mother’s Day themed offerings, but Spoonful of Comfort has really good stuff.

https://www.spoonfulofcomfort.com/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Avoid the Mother’s Day themed offerings, but Spoonful of Comfort has really good stuff.

https://www.spoonfulofcomfort.com/

Meh. My kids wouldn't eat this when I got it.

[Anonymous]

It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

[Anonymous]

There is lasagne love - I loved the lasagne friends made after I had a baby during COVID.

Also, if in this area, STW Cleaners does a free cleaning for anyone with a cancer diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

+1 I think you should be careful about creating a sense of obligatory gratitude for this woman. I would avoid anything too lavish or homemade unless you’re close friends. A gift card and a short, upbeat note is perfect- don’t make more work for her by trying to ease her burden.

[Anonymous]

Dinner is appreciated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

Yes and also helps the family
space out food assistance for when they really need it vs a bunch of meals getting dropped off at the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Avoid the Mother’s Day themed offerings, but Spoonful of Comfort has really good stuff.

https://www.spoonfulofcomfort.com/

I came here to say this! I discovered this company during the pandemic when loved ones got sick and I couldn’t see them. The soups, rolls and cookies are delicious!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

+1 I think you should be careful about creating a sense of obligatory gratitude for this woman. I would avoid anything too lavish or homemade unless you’re close friends. A gift card and a short, upbeat note is perfect- don’t make more work for her by trying to ease her burden.

I’m not understanding the tone of this response; you seem callous. How is sending a meal to someone who is sick “ creating a sense of obligatory gratitude” for her or creating more work for her? If I were sick I’d LOVE for someone to do this for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

+1 I think you should be careful about creating a sense of obligatory gratitude for this woman. I would avoid anything too lavish or homemade unless you’re close friends. A gift card and a short, upbeat note is perfect- don’t make more work for her by trying to ease her burden.

I’m not understanding the tone of this response; you seem callous. How is sending a meal to someone who is sick “ creating a sense of obligatory gratitude” for her or creating more work for her? If I were sick I’d LOVE for someone to do this for me!

I guess everyone has different experiences. I have a friend who is an aggressive gift giver and expects adulation and detailed descriptions of delight over every bit and bob. I wouldn’t want to return serving dishes and faux gush over your baked ziti, however appreciated. A thoughtful, measured thank you note for a gift card is less emotionally draining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is lasagne love - I loved the lasagne friends made after I had a baby during COVID.

Also, if in this area, STW Cleaners does a free cleaning for anyone with a cancer diagnosis.

Except tomato sauce may be too acidic for someone going through cancer treatment.

[Anonymous]

Definitely ubereats or Door Dash. The family can pick out what they want and when they want it. It’s a very thoughtful gift.

[Anonymous]

Make a meal that you are good at, and bring it over. Could be tacos, lasagna (although I'd caution against this as everyone does it), a chicken dish, pulled pork (if you know they eat pork), etc.

Include protein, veggies, grains and a dessert. Could be brownies and berries or whatever. If you are a great chocolate chip cookie maker, bring that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems impersonal but an ubereats gift card is great so they can get what they want.

+1 I think you should be careful about creating a sense of obligatory gratitude for this woman. I would avoid anything too lavish or homemade unless you’re close friends. A gift card and a short, upbeat note is perfect- don’t make more work for her by trying to ease her burden.

I’m not understanding the tone of this response; you seem callous. How is sending a meal to someone who is sick “ creating a sense of obligatory gratitude” for her or creating more work for her? If I were sick I’d LOVE for someone to do this for me!

I guess everyone has different experiences. I have a friend who is an aggressive gift giver and expects adulation and detailed descriptions of delight over every bit and bob. I wouldn’t want to return serving dishes and faux gush over your baked ziti, however appreciated. A thoughtful, measured thank you note for a gift card is less emotionally draining.

Your friend has a love language of gifting. It truly energizes her to think about you enjoying your gift. Some (extended) texting is not so difficult and if it is too much, you can stop doing and she will stop giving. Not really a problem.