Never say Thank You
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Anonymous
| Would you continue relationship with family members who NEVER say thank you? You buy them a very thoughtful birthday present, not one thank you. You let them stay at your place, not one thank you. The only reason I’m in contact is because they are "family" but none of my other family act this way. |
Anonymous
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Well I don't think I'd burn it all down, but at the very least I'd stop buying them nice stuff for their birthday or letting them use my house as a hotel.
Not showing any sort of appreciation is very rude. |
Anonymous
k Are they clueless in other areas of life? Were their parents able to teach them any manners or is this a special needs situation? |
Anonymous
| What is their relation to you? Cousin, sinking, aunt? |
Anonymous
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They are clearly self centered and in-empathetic.
That could be due to many reasons, so just know the above and role model the opposite for your kids and them. Pleases and thank you’s. Be thankful for others’ efforts. |
Anonymous
| Stop doing things for them. |
Anonymous
| I'd continue having a relationship in terms of inviting them to family events and chatting with them when I see them. But I wouldn't get them gifts or let them stay at my place anymore. |
Anonymous
| Yes I’d continue a relationship for sure. But the gift giving and offers of staying at my house would stop. You don’t have to do the latter to enjoy a good relationship. |
Anonymous
| No, I wouldn't but my tolerance for dealing with people who I don't really care for has gone WAAAAY down as I've gotten older. |
Anonymous
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My extended family members including my parents never thank me for anything. They often like to remind me of how great and generous they are whenever they don’t like something about my life, however.
I don’t take it personally. This says more about them than it does about me. I don’t let other people’s actions determine my own feelings about what I do or don’t do. Boundaries are healthy. |
Anonymous
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Usually white people are very cold
But maybe I'm just assuming |
Anonymous
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I don't care if people thank me for a gift beyond just saying it. If I got no thank you year after year, I might assume I am imposing and stop/ Some people don't like stuff.
My husband and I have much bigger issues with gratitude. He has given way too much money to help out family only to find they spend it all frivolously, are ungrateful and expect more, so he stopped. I spent years helping one parent care for the other and manage things only to be faced with more and more demands and entitlement and turned out they were sitting on a mountain of money. I backed away and insisted they use that mountain to fund every form of help. An occasional genuine and heartfelt thank you would have gone a long way. The fact it was unappreciated and the entitlement grew over the years made me feel used. |
Anonymous
| It’s cultural. I remember early in my relationship with my DH I thanked him for something and he said “You don’t have to thank me.” He was basically saying he loved me and so doing nice things for me was a given. His whole family is like this with each other but always say thank you to strangers/acquaintaces/etc. it’s weird to me, but not a problem. |
Anonymous
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My British in-laws straight up told me they don’t do How are yous, thank yous, pleases. “They’re too phone.”
They are pretty silent even at meals. But when I saw my MIL give away her new Xmas L’occitane lotions to her cleaning lady and never saying thanks for including them on our family beach trip, I was done. That in addition to them never paying for an outing or meal, despite having tons of money, is just grating and their flaw not mine. I don’t think highly of those who aren’t grateful for other people’s generosity, planning and money. I cut way back on planning cool stuff to do, and caring about anything they say. |
Anonymous
| Phony |