How do you raise winners?

[Anonymous]

How do you raise children that can set, meet goals and succeed in what they want?

[Anonymous]

What they want or what you want for them so you can brag about them? My DD didn't want to go to college or have children, wanted to live in the suburbs/borderline rural area, and be the manager of a retail store. She's accomplished that and also has a garden where she grows food and has a dog, a cat and a boyfriend and is blissfully happy and self-supporting. So she set her goals, met them and is succeeding in what she wants.

[Anonymous]

How do you define being a winner?
My MS child is confident, sociable, athletic and enjoys life. However, she struggles to maintain a B because she has adhd. She’s not going to an Ivy but currently wants to be a teacher. She’s successful in my book but I don’t know if you would think so.

[Anonymous]

You mean like Trump?

[Anonymous]

Ours get it from their birthright and the exceptional winner example they see in their parents. Helps to be kids of the best.

[Anonymous]

What a gross question. A lot of life is luck and being in the right place at the right time. Yes goal setting and working towards those goals are important, but they don’t guarantee success.

Teach your kids that working hard and being kind are more important than the outcome. Also let it roll off your back if you lose sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ours get it from their birthright and the exceptional winner example they see in their parents. Helps to be kids of the best.

Make sure they only marry cousins

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you raise children that can set, meet goals and succeed in what they want?

By modeling those skills yourself. Your kids learn by watching you.

[Anonymous]

Let them fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you raise children that can set, meet goals and succeed in what they want?

By modeling those skills yourself. Your kids learn by watching you.

Many exceptionally privileged people who I know who have successful parents are not exceptional and have struggled with mental health and substance abuse, and even if they seem to have things together (decent job, spouse, kids, lux lifestyle, $2M home) a lot of that is due to the fact that their parents were able to throw money at problems to make those problems go away and then finance their lives as adults.

So many privileged kits lack grit and drive. And maybe some of that is seeing how much their parents sacrificed to get to where they are and deciding they don’t want that life.

[Anonymous]

Ask Joseph Kennedy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you raise children that can set, meet goals and succeed in what they want?

By modeling those skills yourself. Your kids learn by watching you.

Many exceptionally privileged people who I know who have successful parents are not exceptional and have struggled with mental health and substance abuse, and even if they seem to have things together (decent job, spouse, kids, lux lifestyle, $2M home) a lot of that is due to the fact that their parents were able to throw money at problems to make those problems go away and then finance their lives as adults.

So many privileged kits lack grit and drive. And maybe some of that is seeing how much their parents sacrificed to get to where they are and deciding they don’t want that life.

I think this is what OP is asking about. When you're kids grow up in a wealthy home, the privilege just comes to them. They don't learn the self-motivated grit that made their parents' successful. How do you teach that, when the kids are cocooned in privilege?

[Anonymous]

Most kids can do that, OP, just maybe not to your specifications. Even my ADHD/ASD kid sets goals, works towards them and *generally* gets there (with help, and lots of nagging).

So I'd say, if your kid doesn't have special needs, you have nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Really spend time with your children
have expectations
be a good example
Limit screen time

[Anonymous]

Both parents must be AKC from reliable breeders.

Absolutely no conformation issues allowed. No matter how appealing and unique. Breed standards are the most important consideration not a winning personality.