Why does my friend brag about her dates this way?

[Anonymous]

I’m going to be honest and I’m sure I’ll get hate, but hear me out. I have a friend, she’s not the most attractive (Listen, I’m not either. I’m overweight and just not traditionally pretty. And before you come at me, tell me honestly that you don’t know a single unattractive person. You know you can’t) yet she’s always finding, according to her, “wealthy” men to date. I don’t know what she offers these men, nor do I want to, but they wine and dine her, take her on trips, and then drop her like a hot potato. But there’s always another waiting.

She will constantly brag in a really strange way. “Oh my gosh, we accidentally ordered the really expensive bottle of wine. We had no idea until the bill came! But it’s ok, he’s loaded and he can afford it!” “We had no choice but to book the presidential suite. I thought he would cancel the trip but no, he just booked it! It’s ok though, because he’s well off. He can afford if.” Then she will go on about the always unbelievable way the man is wealthy (it’s always he’s a genius in X field or some other ridiculous thing.)

What is this?

[Anonymous]

Overcompensation for insecurity. What else could it be? I supposed blind confidence is a possibility, but given how the world treats unattractive women, I say good for her.

If it annoys you though, you have to find a way out of that conversation or reconsider the friendship.

[Anonymous]

She's lying?

[Anonymous]

Overcompensation for a lifetime of not feeling like she is enough.

She is probably on some sugar daddy site.

I doubt I would be friends with someone who does not share my values. You don’t sound like you particularly like her. She sounds sad to me.

[Anonymous]

Lies or exaggeration.

[Anonymous]

Have you met any of these men? It sounds like she's lying. It also sounds like she might have some anxiety or maybe an untreated mental health struggle. Yes, I'm reading into this, but the way you describe her stories, which I think are lies, it seems like she has a super need for attention. Or acceptance? If I had a friend acting like that I might feel a little sorry for her, and wonder if there was something I could do to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overcompensation for insecurity. What else could it be? I supposed blind confidence is a possibility, but given how the world treats unattractive women, I say good for her.

If it annoys you though, you have to find a way out of that conversation or reconsider the friendship.

Agreed, sounds like a very insecure person. Beyond cringe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you met any of these men? It sounds like she's lying. It also sounds like she might have some anxiety or maybe an untreated mental health struggle. Yes, I'm reading into this, but the way you describe her stories, which I think are lies, it seems like she has a super need for attention. Or acceptance? If I had a friend acting like that I might feel a little sorry for her, and wonder if there was something I could do to help.

I’ve never met or seen a single picture of any off them, nor have I seen a single picture of any of these vacations. This is a good point I hadn’t even considered.

[Anonymous]

"I always thought it would be better to be a fake somebody than a real nobody."

[Anonymous]

She sounds really annoying and I don't know why you would stay friends with her.

It also sounds like you don't really like her and that the main draw to interacting with her is that you get to judge her.

I would drop her and focus on genuine friendships where you root for each other and operate with empathy and kindness. This is a waste of time.

But to answer your question, the main reason people brag (or exaggerate) like this is insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds really annoying and I don't know why you would stay friends with her.

It also sounds like you don't really like her and that the main draw to interacting with her is that you get to judge her.

I would drop her and focus on genuine friendships where you root for each other and operate with empathy and kindness. This is a waste of time.

But to answer your question, the main reason people brag (or exaggerate) like this is insecurity.

x100000 What is the point OP?

[Anonymous]

Imagination

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds really annoying and I don't know why you would stay friends with her.

It also sounds like you don't really like her and that the main draw to interacting with her is that you get to judge her.

I would drop her and focus on genuine friendships where you root for each other and operate with empathy and kindness. This is a waste of time.

But to answer your question, the main reason people brag (or exaggerate) like this is insecurity.

x100000 What is the point OP?

It’s an old family friend I can’t avoid occasionally interacting with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds really annoying and I don't know why you would stay friends with her.

It also sounds like you don't really like her and that the main draw to interacting with her is that you get to judge her.

I would drop her and focus on genuine friendships where you root for each other and operate with empathy and kindness. This is a waste of time.

But to answer your question, the main reason people brag (or exaggerate) like this is insecurity.

x100000 What is the point OP?

It’s an old family friend I can’t avoid occasionally interacting with.

So occasionally interact with her but emotionally detach and stop thinking of her as a friend. When she does this thing, just think "oh she's doing that thing I hate again" and move on.

There's a decent chance she does this BECAUSE she knows it irritates you, and thinks she's impressing you or making you jealous. The less of a reaction you have, the more likely it is that she will realize this behavior does not get the response she's craving, and stop.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this, but it’s all the much younger guys she hooks up with.