People who congratulate their kids on social media, like Facebook, but their kids aren't on it
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Anonymous
| Um. Why? |
Anonymous
| It's a brag wall. You know this. |
Anonymous
| It's just a little brag. It's OK! I post sparingly. But I like to share the occasional update (birthday, college choice, etc.). And I like seeing such news from my FB friends. |
Anonymous
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You can say the same thing about wishing a happy mothers day but your mom isnt on FB. Wishing a happy anniversary to your spouse who isnt on FB.
Dumb AF. |
Anonymous
| I am the OP. I get sharing it but why say congratulations, we're so proud of you as if you are addressing the person when they will never see it. |
Anonymous
I'm with you |
Anonymous
+1. Narcissism at its finest. |
Anonymous
Generous take -- they are sharing their pride with their friends, and also giving their friends a chance to congratulate their kids by letting them know what is going on. Mean take -- they are couching straight up brags as "a message" to someone else, in an effort to disguise that they are just bragging about their kids. FWIW, I find this behavior less annoying than married couples who post gushing "I love you" posts directed at their spouse for birthdays and anniversaries. You live together, you couldn't have just shared that directly? I think I also just find a proud parent less annoying than someone who really, really wants you to know how hot they still find their husband after all these years. |
Anonymous
That ... isn't narcissism. Narcissists generally don't wish others well like that. |
Anonymous
They are doing it so that they look good (I'm not sure if that still fits a narc pov, just clarifying). They aren't actually wishing anyone well, they are showing "I'm such a good daughter! I wished my mom a happy mothers day, even though I know she will never see this, but everyone else will! Yay go me!" kind of thing. Or "Look at how in looooove we are! Everyone should be jealous of our relationship!" for relationship type posts. |
Anonymous
| So grandparents and aunts know |
Anonymous
And people who went with them to college 20+ years ago...while I am vaguely happy to hear that College classmate X's son got into Yale and is a fine human being according to his dad, would I brag about my kid the same way? I don't think so. I was thinking about posting a picture of my kid's latest belt achievement in karate, but opted not to. |
Anonymous
It's definitely more directed at the college classmates and other more distant acquaintances, than at actual friends and family. I know that my nephew is graduating from school this year. I know where my good friend's kid is going to college. I didn't learn this stuff from social media. If it's posted there, it's to get the info to a broader circle who you don't see or talk to often enough to share it in person. And I'm sure, often, to impress them or make them jealous. That's what social media is for, generally. |
Anonymous
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I don’t do a congratulations as much as a life update type announcement about my kids (none of whom are on FB). So once a season, I might post something about their sports or a school concert, etc. A yearly birthday greeting and that’s about it. I’d probably post a HS/college graduation congrats, but we haven’t had any of those yet. I do it to let far flung family members (none local) know of their activities and our life.
I enjoy seeing when my friends and family postsimilar things as 85% of my fb friends are not local and I like knowing what they’re doing. I do not post anything directed to my husband (birthday/anniversary/Father’s Day, etc because he doesn’t post on social media. I just tell him directly or text if he’s traveling. |
Anonymous
You have a peculiar way of looking at the world. Are you normally this cynical? |