Is just not responding to invitations actually an acceptable thing?

[Anonymous]

I've had this a few times recently with friends of ds (9) where they've made an informal plan and I reached out to the parents to schedule. Both times I was careful to suggest something specific so that if the kid in fact does not actually want to do a playdate, it would be easy to just say 'oh we're actually busy that day'. One time I gave the parents the option of coming over also (or dropping off if better). And both times they just have literally not answered.

Is it acceptable to just ignore invitations? If so maybe I will start doing this!

[Anonymous]

It's not okay but common. I try not to take it personally and if the child is someone my kid really likes, will ask again later in a week or a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had this a few times recently with friends of ds (9) where they've made an informal plan and I reached out to the parents to schedule. Both times I was careful to suggest something specific so that if the kid in fact does not actually want to do a playdate, it would be easy to just say 'oh we're actually busy that day'. One time I gave the parents the option of coming over also (or dropping off if better). And both times they just have literally not answered.

Is it acceptable to just ignore invitations? If so maybe I will start doing this!

No. It is rude. Silence is an answer and obviously the person who did not respond has no manners or doesn't like you or both. In any case, stop them from your friend list.

[Anonymous]

Never ok

[Anonymous]

Definitely not ok. But lots of things people do today are so incredibly rude and uncouth and they do not care. I miss the old days of priority and shame. I am not kidding and I’m only 40.

[Anonymous]

It’s rude.

[Anonymous]

It's rude but I don't take an invitation seriously from a 9 year old and would ignore a child to child request. And, I wouldn't drop off my kid if I didn't know you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude but I don't take an invitation seriously from a 9 year old and would ignore a child to child request. And, I wouldn't drop off my kid if I didn't know you.

How do you expect your child to make friends?

[Anonymous]

So rude. I miss manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's rude but I don't take an invitation seriously from a 9 year old and would ignore a child to child request. And, I wouldn't drop off my kid if I didn't know you.

How do you expect your child to make friends?

My child has plenty of friends. But, at 9, invites should come from parents, not kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had this a few times recently with friends of ds (9) where they've made an informal plan and I reached out to the parents to schedule. Both times I was careful to suggest something specific so that if the kid in fact does not actually want to do a playdate, it would be easy to just say 'oh we're actually busy that day'. One time I gave the parents the option of coming over also (or dropping off if better). And both times they just have literally not answered.

Is it acceptable to just ignore invitations? If so maybe I will start doing this!

It’s rude to me.

[Anonymous]

It's not only rude it tells you that the person ignoring the invitation has low self esteem and zero breeding and doesn't know how to decline an invitation politely.

[Anonymous]

My husband's own brother and sister did not respond to the wedding invitation of a nephew. They were then sent a text asking if they were coming and only one replied and it was a no because they didn't like driving in a big city.
I was shocked.

[Anonymous]

How are you sending the invitation? Are you sure you are establishing 2-way communication?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's rude but I don't take an invitation seriously from a 9 year old and would ignore a child to child request. And, I wouldn't drop off my kid if I didn't know you.

How do you expect your child to make friends?

Does that PP sound like someone who likes having friends?