Offer/Tryouts Etiquette

[Anonymous]

I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

[Anonymous]

If you’ve only registered, no. But if he’s gone to other tryouts, you should let the coaches know.

It’s a small world, and the likelihood that you will encounter them over the years is pretty high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

Also, not attending a tryout your registered for tells the other coaches that their team was always a second/back-up option. I definitely agree that you owe it to them to tell them eventually that you accepted an offer somewhere else, but by attending the tryout your player will have already impressed them for any future consideration.

[Anonymous]

I disagree. Maybe due to circumstance the player might have registered and not able to attend. Let's not be one sided.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

Also, not attending a tryout your registered for tells the other coaches that their team was always a second/back-up option. I definitely agree that you owe it to them to tell them eventually that you accepted an offer somewhere else, but by attending the tryout your player will have already impressed them for any future consideration.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

Also, not attending a tryout your registered for tells the other coaches that their team was always a second/back-up option. I definitely agree that you owe it to them to tell them eventually that you accepted an offer somewhere else, but by attending the tryout your player will have already impressed them for any future consideration.

So wait, we should send an email if we didn't end up going to a tryout that our child was registered for? Missed a couple of first tryouts that fell on the same night due to an injury, so we just figured it wasn't in the cards for this year. Tryouts are over for one, could attend second tryout for the other though it would mean missing a current team practice yet again (starting to worry this will look bad; might still stay at this club). I figured the other clubs just wouldn't care with so many other kids attending. But don't want to look bad in case our child wants to try out in the future...

[Anonymous]

If you intend to accept the offer then there is no point to go to the other try outs.  

Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

Which is why they led with "If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts."

Back to OPs original question - Assuming you accepted the offer from your top choice - if you registered online and didn't speak with a coach or member of the club then just not showing up is appropriate. If you reached out to the coach prior, I'd send them an email thanking them for consideration however your DS has accepted an offer with another club and they won't be coming to the tryouts.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I guess I just disagree. First, it says received an offer not accepted an offer. Second, I still think it's a good idea for a good player to be in front of as many coaches as possible. It's not really a waste of anyone's time as they are hosting the training or tryout with or without your player. Everyone understands that offers won't always be accepted.

Also, not attending a tryout your registered for tells the other coaches that their team was always a second/back-up option. I definitely agree that you owe it to them to tell them eventually that you accepted an offer somewhere else, but by attending the tryout your player will have already impressed them for any future consideration.

So wait, we should send an email if we didn't end up going to a tryout that our child was registered for? Missed a couple of first tryouts that fell on the same night due to an injury, so we just figured it wasn't in the cards for this year. Tryouts are over for one, could attend second tryout for the other though it would mean missing a current team practice yet again (starting to worry this will look bad; might still stay at this club). I figured the other clubs just wouldn't care with so many other kids attending. But don't want to look bad in case our child wants to try out in the future...

everyone is thinking way to much into this...if a child doesn't show up to a tryout there is no future ramifications unless they were being actively recruited by the club/coach. Clubs have a short memory and staff moves around all the time and if in a couple years you're interested in joining the club you ghosted, it's probably a different coach since coaches tend to keep the same age level i.e. U13/U12/U11 and not stay with a specific age group the entire time

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

I agree. The coaches are trying to pick a team. When people show up to tryouts with no intention of accepting an offer, it confuses them, and causes kids who should just make the team to have to come in as an alternate, which can cause creates insecurity for them.

[Anonymous]

Ya'll need to chill. I can honestly tell you these tryouts are very disorganized. There are over 100 kids who registered. Unless your player is a well-known player aka top player; the coaches are not going to even notice you signed up and didn't show.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

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Not BS if this is a club or team or coach you want to play for.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.