I'm sure I'll get some heat or unhelpful comments from this post, but I'm curious if you use a tutor, how often, and if you started using one for a specific reason,or just to keep your child competitive or worried school isn't meeting their needs.
We have been using a tutor for my 6th grader for several years now since we realized she had dyslexia and was very behind in reading. It's been extremely helpful in getting her caught up and helping her confidence. In the fall, I had my 4th grader see a tutor just to prep for private school applications. My 4th grader seems to do well in school—probably average or slightly above. We never really stopped the tutoring after the fall, but recently Ive started thinking, Why are we still doing this? Especially since she complains about. I'm not looking to stir the pot!! Just curious how others take on tutoring and why you do or do not do it. |
7th and 5th here, and no. No need. |
My kids have had math tutors at various times…currently the 8th grader has one because my husband and I are too math-inept to help. My 10th grader manages on her own. |
We do have a math and English tutor for our middle schooler. My kid is extremely bright but has severe ADHD and misses tons at school. He needs the 1:1 attention that the tutors provide. One has a background in teaching 2e kids, and she's the best tutor I've ever seen. We have the money to pay for the tutor, otherwise we'd be the tutors ourselves. |
2nd, 4th, and 6th and we haven't had a need. Kids self-prepped for private school applications with the help of work books and I've worked with them to fill in other academic gaps.
If my kids had a demonstrated learning disability like dyslexia that responded best to specialized training, we would absolutely have a tutor. Will probably need a tutor Algebra 2 or later if any of my kids are struggling. Even though I got a minor in math in college, I just don't remember enough! |
I have a tutor for my 5 year old to prepare him for k next year and make sure he does not fall behind. Sounds crazy, I know… but he likes it and we are not paying for super expensive tutors. It’s like an activity he does (learning letters and numbers) at home while I finish working.
My older kids never had a tutor (4th and 2nd grade) and are doing very well in private. |
My older kid did briefly when he was getting frustrated with math and just needed some extra attention. It was just a smart high school kid who could help.
My other kid with ADHD misses stuff in the classroom, so she has a tutor weekly, a former SPED teacher to help keep her on track. |
I am the tutor. We only work on math following the elementary school books I got from abroad.
No special needs, but also not a genius. They just need to put in the work to understand what they are doing. |
Only for math so my kid doesn’t fail. |
Same. |
numerous tutors to get ahead and be prepared for college and hopefully get into a good college, public school |
No but I realize my child will only ever be average. Why make him something he’s not. |
Generally, we don't, although we have on two occasions used tutors for MS/HS classes when they got too far behind.
We do try to make sure they are using all resources available at their school - after school homework help, honor society tutors, teacher help sessions during lunch, before arranging a tutor. And I sometimes "tutor" at home, but its more executive function - if the child is struggling to complete HW I usually suggest that they watch the video their teacher has provided |
im the PP that uses tutors, in elem my kid wasnt interested in things, really kind of my idea to have them do stuff, middle school the same, HS actually no more tutors and totally self starter and one of the best students,,,seeing your kids as "average" is a fixed mindset, not growth one... |
Yes, we have had a tutor for all three kids up until high school. Once a week starting in K. |