Dating and constant social media posts

[Anonymous]

I've been dating someone for the past three months and she consistently posts everything we do on social media. On Instagram in her stories she posts what we ate, drank, and every stop we make. She's posted numerous selfies in my home. We're over 40. I'm not sure if she's just excited to be out or what, but is this normal behavior in 2024? It feels like she has something to prove to someone.

[Anonymous]

What a turn off.

[Anonymous]

Run

[Anonymous]

Ugh. No. I couldn't deal with that.

[Anonymous]

She's definitely lacking self confidence and needing to "show" people on social media she's moved on, is dating, is going to certain places, etc. Kind of pathetic- move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


She's definitely lacking self confidence and needing to "show" people on social media she's moved on, is dating, is going to certain places, etc. Kind of pathetic- move on

+1. Sorry OP. This is a huge red flag. For someone over 40 it’s downright embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Gross. I know women who did this with relationship but they were younger (late 20s/early 30s) and it was a decade ago. It comes off as extremely insecure to me, especially in someone older. You should not need other people to see your relationship in order to feel good about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gross. I know women who did this with relationship but they were younger (late 20s/early 30s) and it was a decade ago. It comes off as extremely insecure to me, especially in someone older. You should not need other people to see your relationship in order to feel good about it.

It feels like insecurity to me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


She's definitely lacking self confidence and needing to "show" people on social media she's moved on, is dating, is going to certain places, etc. Kind of pathetic- move on

Right. That's how it feels to me.
OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been dating someone for the past three months and she consistently posts everything we do on social media. On Instagram in her stories she posts what we ate, drank, and every stop we make. She's posted numerous selfies in my home. We're over 40. I'm not sure if she's just excited to be out or what, but is this normal behavior in 2024? It feels like she has something to prove to someone.

Arrested development.

Is she immature in other aspects of her personality as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


She's definitely lacking self confidence and needing to "show" people on social media she's moved on, is dating, is going to certain places, etc. Kind of pathetic- move on

+1

[Anonymous]

You can ask her to have a phone-free date. See what her response is.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have some friends like this. It is not my preference, but they have other awesome qualities that I love, so I’m not going to ask them to change. Up to you if you are ok with it or want to mutually agree on what is posted - that’s fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can ask her to have a phone-free date. See what her response is.

I'll try this. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

The people I know who do this very obviously want a specific ex to see their posts.