Ask for an offer in writing before turning another one down?

[Anonymous]

DC went to a tryout not really knowing what to expect. Ended up being offered a spot on the first team. They liked it well enough, but has indicated they would prefer to stay with their current team. However, tryouts for the current team are not until next week. Worried about turning down an offer without an offer from the current team in hand. Do we push to get an offer from the current team? If so, who do we approach about this? Current coach is not moving up with the Team and is not very approachable. We don’t want to come off as too demanding, But it would be nice to have some peace of mind

[Anonymous]

Nothing shows your current club you are looking around like asking for a offer before your tryouts begin. You could always ask your TD if DC is likely to stay with the team but a written offer is a little extra imo.

[Anonymous]

If you haven't gotten an offer from the current team, they most likely will wait till try out before giving out offers.

I know for our club, our top team and some of our second team players have received and accepted offers.

[Anonymous]

Verbal offers are rescinded all the time. Be wary.

[Anonymous]

verbal offers mean nothing. my son was given a verbal offer to join the top team. he was also invited to practice with the team for the rest of the season. we found out last week the coach is leaving and the verbal offer is now meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Verbal and written offers can be rescinded. Several teams in area have made offers for top teams and then changed their mind with kids once the season starts. Alexandria is infamous for this. That's why it's best to always have connections and keep options in your back pocket.

[Anonymous]

always in writing (email). Always.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:verbal offers mean nothing. my son was given a verbal offer to join the top team. he was also invited to practice with the team for the rest of the season. we found out last week the coach is leaving and the verbal offer is now meaningless.

we had the same experience last year. one of the top clubs in the area. so unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Verbal offers are rescinded all the time. Be wary.

That works both ways. OP can accept and have the kid try out for the current team. If no offer comes in the meantime, the kid is free to stay once that have an offer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Verbal and written offers can be rescinded. Several teams in area have made offers for top teams and then changed their mind with kids once the season starts. Alexandria is infamous for this. That's why it's best to always have connections and keep options in your back pocket.

How does one keep options in the back pocket? Let’s say a kid doesn’t feel ready to commit to an offer from Club A, so it expires and the club has to move on. But then the verbal offer from Club B gets rescinded or the offer is not what the player had hoped due to factors outside their control (e.g. new coach, lots of players from outside bumping kids from sorts, etc). Seems like it’s too late to go back to club A and ask for another chance? Meanwhile tryouts for Clubs C and D are on the same nights and who knows how to choose which would be the better fit. This whole process just seems so unnecessarily stressful. Are other sports like this?

[Anonymous]

Very unprofessional but not uncommon.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:verbal offers mean nothing. my son was given a verbal offer to join the top team. he was also invited to practice with the team for the rest of the season. we found out last week the coach is leaving and the verbal offer is now meaningless.

we had the same experience last year. one of the top clubs in the area. so unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

We had four top team offers. We told them our decision would be made after all the tryouts were completed. Three of the four teams kept in contact with us and would check in to see if we had a final decision. If the coaches like your player enough they will wait but communication is key.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Verbal and written offers can be rescinded. Several teams in area have made offers for top teams and then changed their mind with kids once the season starts. Alexandria is infamous for this. That's why it's best to always have connections and keep options in your back pocket.

How does one keep options in the back pocket? Let’s say a kid doesn’t feel ready to commit to an offer from Club A, so it expires and the club has to move on. But then the verbal offer from Club B gets rescinded or the offer is not what the player had hoped due to factors outside their control (e.g. new coach, lots of players from outside bumping kids from sorts, etc). Seems like it’s too late to go back to club A and ask for another chance? Meanwhile tryouts for Clubs C and D are on the same nights and who knows how to choose which would be the better fit. This whole process just seems so unnecessarily stressful. Are other sports like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Verbal and written offers can be rescinded. Several teams in area have made offers for top teams and then changed their mind with kids once the season starts. Alexandria is infamous for this. That's why it's best to always have connections and keep options in your back pocket.

How does one keep options in the back pocket? Let’s say a kid doesn’t feel ready to commit to an offer from Club A, so it expires and the club has to move on. But then the verbal offer from Club B gets rescinded or the offer is not what the player had hoped due to factors outside their control (e.g. new coach, lots of players from outside bumping kids from sorts, etc). Seems like it’s too late to go back to club A and ask for another chance? Meanwhile tryouts for Clubs C and D are on the same nights and who knows how to choose which would be the better fit. This whole process just seems so unnecessarily stressful. Are other sports like this?

Its easier to make a soccer team then a basketball team, for 100% sure.

[Anonymous]

100% verbal offers by coaches or clubs are a joke. My kid was promised to practice with the top team for all of spring. He's way above any player on his current team and learning nothing. Spring comes and promise broken. Was told they "can't show favoritism" toward him even though he guest plays up all the time. WTF... Now my kid is irritated and is trying out for other clubs. I'd rather stay in the same club but understand my kid's point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Verbal and written offers can be rescinded. Several teams in area have made offers for top teams and then changed their mind with kids once the season starts. Alexandria is infamous for this. That's why it's best to always have connections and keep options in your back pocket.

How does one keep options in the back pocket? Let’s say a kid doesn’t feel ready to commit to an offer from Club A, so it expires and the club has to move on. But then the verbal offer from Club B gets rescinded or the offer is not what the player had hoped due to factors outside their control (e.g. new coach, lots of players from outside bumping kids from sorts, etc). Seems like it’s too late to go back to club A and ask for another chance? Meanwhile tryouts for Clubs C and D are on the same nights and who knows how to choose which would be the better fit. This whole process just seems so unnecessarily stressful. Are other sports like this?

Its easier to make a soccer team then a basketball team, for 100% sure.

Basketball is absurd. At least soccer tryouts are relatively tightly packed. Basketball this year spanned almost 2 months.