Question for Divorced Moms in 40s

[Anonymous]

This is for divorced moms in their 40s who have meet good people to be in relationship with. Other than apps, where have you met good, fun, engaging men to be in relationship with?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t. It was an app.

He’s a really good one though.

[Anonymous]

I just go through old acquaintances and friends. We always vibed and liked each other but the timing wasn't right. Right now I'm dating my old college professor. We always stayed in touch throughout the years. 20 years later, we're in the same city and both single. 7 year age difference.

[Anonymous]

Be very attractive. Guys will overlook a lot of baggage if you're very attractive.

If you're not attractive, then it helps to have money. Divorced women with their own money have better prospects - you can afford childcare that enables you to date/travel, have money to care for yourself, you don't come across as needy, etc.

If you're not very attractive and you don't have your own money, then good luck. If you have an intense kid or SN child...again, good luck. It's rough out here.

All the divorced moms I know who really struck gold with their guys the 2nd time around are all at least moderately attractive and have an independent source of money (either they work and/or receive a substantial amount of money from their well-off ex and/or have family money).

They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

[Anonymous]

“They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

What are those scenarios? Where are they (the single ones) hanging out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be very attractive. Guys will overlook a lot of baggage if you're very attractive.

If you're not attractive, then it helps to have money. Divorced women with their own money have better prospects - you can afford childcare that enables you to date/travel, have money to care for yourself, you don't come across as needy, etc.

If you're not very attractive and you don't have your own money, then good luck. If you have an intense kid or SN child...again, good luck. It's rough out here.

All the divorced moms I know who really struck gold with their guys the 2nd time around are all at least moderately attractive and have an independent source of money (either they work and/or receive a substantial amount of money from their well-off ex and/or have family money).

They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

Such a long reply and yet, you have not answered the question OP asked.

[Anonymous]

The cleanest answer is always going to be friends of friends or friends of colleagues. You really just have to put it out there that you are interested in finding someone.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but app for me. Bumble. Matched with four. Two had second dates. Am 6 months into a relationship with one. I was very specific in dealbreaker filters (location, politics, religion), and paid so that men could only see my profile after I swiped/liked them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be very attractive. Guys will overlook a lot of baggage if you're very attractive.

If you're not attractive, then it helps to have money. Divorced women with their own money have better prospects - you can afford childcare that enables you to date/travel, have money to care for yourself, you don't come across as needy, etc.

If you're not very attractive and you don't have your own money, then good luck. If you have an intense kid or SN child...again, good luck. It's rough out here.

All the divorced moms I know who really struck gold with their guys the 2nd time around are all at least moderately attractive and have an independent source of money (either they work and/or receive a substantial amount of money from their well-off ex and/or have family money).

They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

Very true. My ex is probably using the generous alimony I am sending her to probably even take guys on date and pay for it. When you don't have to work to live a good life you will certainly attract an army of men.

[Anonymous]

I think post divorce women have a big advantage compared to men regardless of money or look. Women are more likely to come across men who don't want kids, don't want to get married and are just happy with that status quo. For men it's a different story especially with women waiting longer to have children and their desire to get married if they have never been married before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be very attractive. Guys will overlook a lot of baggage if you're very attractive.

If you're not attractive, then it helps to have money. Divorced women with their own money have better prospects - you can afford childcare that enables you to date/travel, have money to care for yourself, you don't come across as needy, etc.

If you're not very attractive and you don't have your own money, then good luck. If you have an intense kid or SN child...again, good luck. It's rough out here.

All the divorced moms I know who really struck gold with their guys the 2nd time around are all at least moderately attractive and have an independent source of money (either they work and/or receive a substantial amount of money from their well-off ex and/or have family money).

They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

Such a long reply and yet, you have not answered the question OP asked.

Because it's more fun to tell unattractive and/or poor women they will never find love again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be very attractive. Guys will overlook a lot of baggage if you're very attractive.

If you're not attractive, then it helps to have money. Divorced women with their own money have better prospects - you can afford childcare that enables you to date/travel, have money to care for yourself, you don't come across as needy, etc.

If you're not very attractive and you don't have your own money, then good luck. If you have an intense kid or SN child...again, good luck. It's rough out here.

All the divorced moms I know who really struck gold with their guys the 2nd time around are all at least moderately attractive and have an independent source of money (either they work and/or receive a substantial amount of money from their well-off ex and/or have family money).

They can afford to look good, have varied interests outside of their kids, and put themselves in scenarios where they meet high-quality men.

Very true. My ex is probably using the generous alimony I am sending her to probably even take guys on date and pay for it. When you don't have to work to live a good life you will certainly attract an army of men.

Men think SAHM moms will never leave them lol

[Anonymous]

Men also love to think their child support and or alimony is being used for hairdressers, manicurists, designer clothes and dating instead of housing, groceries, utilities as is more likely the case.

[Anonymous]

Join social groups doing things you enjoy…hiking, cooking, book club, pickelball, etc. the more people you meet the more chances of meeting someone. I joined a book club and met a friend who had had a friend that I’m now dating.

[Anonymous]

Apps are the only way for me. I have very little time. I have an hour for coffee. I don't have time to do social activities. That is for people with free time. I have almost none. I am working or exercising or errands when not with my kids. I don't have time to just do fun things and meet people organically.