Could you be married to someone who had a rock solid personality but not expressive?

[Anonymous]

He is 100% responsible, reliable, loyal, honest, hard-working, and loving. He is not expressive or that articulate emotionally. He says he loves me daily, and shows it through acts of service, and is always attracted to me. However he just doesn’t have that big, wide or deep of an emotional vocabulary. Considers himself a simple man (is a college educated professional). Prefers to solve problems and sort through any difficult/negative emotions in his own or with a therapist (once weekly or less, no major mental health issues). Could you live without a deep verbal emotional connection even though you know through action that the love is there?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

of course

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, what's the problem?

[Anonymous]

I dream of this guy. I'm not emotionally expressive, either, though.

[Anonymous]

Some ppl need that deep emotional connection. Sounds like you do.

I do too, and I cannot live with a man without it.

[Anonymous]

That’s a pretty standard-issue dude you have there. The super deep emotionally expressive ones that are also straight are pretty few and far between.

[Anonymous]

This pretty much describes my DH. So, yes. We have had a couple of periods of LDR, which probably forced him to become more expressive with me than he would otherwise be naturally. That your DH is in therapy, though, says a lot in terms of his understanding the need to work through emotions.

This all sounds pretty great, actually. DH is my rock, and I love that he can remain even-keeled when things are rocky for me.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Easily. Over the top declarations of love male me uncomfortable and suspicious.

[Anonymous]

Yes- sounds fabulous.

[Anonymous]

I would like to have conversations about our relationship, our wants and needs, and our future with my DH. I'm talking once every few months have a check-in and maybe once a year talk about our mental or emotional states. He doesn't seem capable or interested and it's a huge problem for me. Huge.

[Anonymous]

Women are literally never happy. Wow

[Anonymous]

What you describe is already pretty expressive, OP. A lot of men who are close to me are way less expressive.

[Anonymous]

Of course. And your non-expressive guy is in weekly therapy? You are underestimating him.

Regardless - yes.