If you brought kids from another marriage into your new marriage, when you were dating how long did you wait before introducing your now spouse to you kids? |
A year, and then it was like a 30 second hello the first time, then next time 2 minutes, then the time after that, about an hour. We really went slowly with it. |
Whose kids? Are these your kids or are these “outside” kids as in your step kids from previous marriage? What does “outside kid” even mean? |
Outside kids generally refers to children from affairs. |
Really? Wow. I'm just wow. |
OP here. If you had kids from a prior marriage or your now spouse had kids from a prior marriage…..how long did you wait before you introduced kids and partner? |
Yes . Not sure why op used that phrase when it seems like she's referring to potential step kids |
After about 6 months |
We waited six mitnhs but we are in our 50s and kids are teens. |
Do you recall how long you dated before you engaged? And then married? |
A year of dating before he met my kid. And then it was a "hello". Eventually became dinners every other week. Now living together. But between meeting and moving in was about 3 years. Took it very very slow. |
How does that make things any different from what they would otherwise be? |
This is so oddly phrased. I have to believe this is the significant other w/o children who is likely also hoping to have their own inside kids when they marry.
If you’re hoping to marry and become a stepparent to your partner’s children someday, I’d start by reframing who they are (your partner’s children, eventual stepchildren), and never refer to them as “outside kids.” |
The circumstances matter. I'd wait longer if I were a woman dating a man, especially if my child was a girl.
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What if the man you were dating were also the father of a girl? |