Meeting ex for drinks
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Anonymous
| I’m married. Any chance I can meet my ex for drinks? |
Anonymous
| Good lord give us more context. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
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Sure. With your spouse, and your ex, and your ex's new partner.
Otherwise, probably not. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't. |
Anonymous
Meeting for coffee to discuss shared kids is one thing, but meetings or drinks sounds like evening and either spouse or their spouse/partner should be there, too. |
Anonymous
| Go for it |
Anonymous
| Does your current spouse know? |
Anonymous
| Slippery slope. |
Anonymous
| Sure, why not? What's the worst that could happen?? |
Anonymous
| It's not at a hotel bar, is it? |
Anonymous
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I naively tried to do this a few years ago. I was in a foreign country on a business trip, and messaged an old GF that I’m still friends with, asking if she wanted to have dinner. I’m married with kids (I’m a guy), she’s married with kids, and we have met each other’s spouses a few times. She eagerly accepted and came dressed to kill.
Turns out her spouse was out of town, she cheats on him, and she was DTF. Who knew? I declined her offer, but we still had a great time. |
Anonymous
| Need more context. I have an ex where we broke up amicably and see each other whenever we are in the same city. It's been 15 years. Spouses know each other, but we share a common field they do not we like to talk about. For this one person, it would be totally fine and nothing has ever happened or will and our spouses know we are trustworthy. If it were some, "one who got away" situation or there was reason to suspect infidelity might be a possibility, no. |
Anonymous
Dumb@ss. |
Anonymous
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I just did for dinner while on a work trip. It went great. We’re both married to other people now and we had broken up amicably due to distance, and knowing that we would never be the right fit for each other. We work in the same field and it was like meeting an old friend for dinner. Had a lot of fun and 0 feelings or weirdness. Both our spouses knew the dinner was happening too.
I would say if you don’t trust yourself or think there could be lingering feelings, don’t do it. |