WWYD if you don't like the coach?

[Anonymous]

DS is not on top team, although he would like to be at some point or have a chance to train/ guest. His coach is not good.... He doesn't really develop players, make decisions that no one understand (players or parents). My DS has spoken up himself with the coach asking what he can do etc multiple times. Nothing. If anything, he sat on bench the next game, not sure if it's a coincidence? or being punished? We have never talked to the coach, my DS is old enough to advocate himself and he's been but so far nothing.

This coach will stay with the team with another year and my DS is feeling deflated. Unsure if we should stick it out? or move? Not even sure where to move to really, it seems like most of the clubs/teams are kind of set and it wouldn't make sense to drive 40-60 mins away for practice unsure if the team is going to be any different.

Feeling deflated with youth soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is not on top team, although he would like to be at some point or have a chance to train/ guest. His coach is not good.... He doesn't really develop players, make decisions that no one understand (players or parents). My DS has spoken up himself with the coach asking what he can do etc multiple times. Nothing. If anything, he sat on bench the next game, not sure if it's a coincidence? or being punished? We have never talked to the coach, my DS is old enough to advocate himself and he's been but so far nothing.

This coach will stay with the team with another year and my DS is feeling deflated. Unsure if we should stick it out? or move? Not even sure where to move to really, it seems like most of the clubs/teams are kind of set and it wouldn't make sense to drive 40-60 mins away for practice unsure if the team is going to be any different.

Feeling deflated with youth soccer.

Just change teams. Life too short.

[Anonymous]

'go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.'

[Anonymous]

Time to move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:'go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.'

+1000

We have left teams midseason because of crap coaches and blatant favoritism. Not worth it to us to have our kids suffer, especially if they are the hardest worker on the field. Never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is not on top team, although he would like to be at some point or have a chance to train/ guest. His coach is not good.... He doesn't really develop players, make decisions that no one understand (players or parents). My DS has spoken up himself with the coach asking what he can do etc multiple times. Nothing. If anything, he sat on bench the next game, not sure if it's a coincidence? or being punished? We have never talked to the coach, my DS is old enough to advocate himself and he's been but so far nothing.

This coach will stay with the team with another year and my DS is feeling deflated. Unsure if we should stick it out? or move? Not even sure where to move to really, it seems like most of the clubs/teams are kind of set and it wouldn't make sense to drive 40-60 mins away for practice unsure if the team is going to be any different.

Feeling deflated with youth soccer.

we were in the same boat and changed clubs

[Anonymous]

Leave. We did this already.

[Anonymous]

Leave. Contact teams you are interested now and ask if they would like to see your son play at their practice. Get his face out there and sign up for tryouts with other clubs. No reason to stay and be unhappy for another year. We did this, stayed and were miserable. Learn from us.

[Anonymous]

Same experience last year. My DS is so happy with his new team and new coach. We left a big club for a small one - while grass at times isn’t greener its night and day the best decision as it’s a happier child who is developing and not complaining.

[Anonymous]

It's a good life lesson for him. Sometimes a situation will be bad. A team, a coach, a teacher, a job, a relationship. Once you recognize it's a bad situation you can sit and take it or actively do something about it. It sounds like he's already done all he could with this coach, time to move on. Start actively looking at other options. Even if it doesn't go anywhere at least he'll learn that he is in control of how he deals with a situation and actively work to improve it will serve him later.

[Anonymous]

Leave. Do NOT stay. The worst thing you can do for your son's development and love of the sport is to keep them with a bad coach that they don't like. If the club is where he wants to end up, he can always come back and try out another time. However, you're doing your child no favors sticking with a coach for another year that your kid doesn't like and isn't a good coach.

[Anonymous]

If you stay you are sending this coach a message that he can treat your kid like crap and continue to get away with it. Move on and send him a different message (that rhymes with duck you). LOL

[Anonymous]

Agree with others that you should leave. Someone will appreciate your son. It sounds like he’s tried repeatedly to self-advocate and it hasn’t helped. It must be very frustrating for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is not on top team, although he would like to be at some point or have a chance to train/ guest. His coach is not good.... He doesn't really develop players, make decisions that no one understand (players or parents). My DS has spoken up himself with the coach asking what he can do etc multiple times. Nothing. If anything, he sat on bench the next game, not sure if it's a coincidence? or being punished? We have never talked to the coach, my DS is old enough to advocate himself and he's been but so far nothing.

This coach will stay with the team with another year and my DS is feeling deflated. Unsure if we should stick it out? or move? Not even sure where to move to really, it seems like most of the clubs/teams are kind of set and it wouldn't make sense to drive 40-60 mins away for practice unsure if the team is going to be any different.

Feeling deflated with youth soccer.

To find the right club for DS, we are making exactly this drive. I didn’t think I’d ever consider it but it turned out to be well worth it. DS is finally playing at exactly the right level, he has excellent supportive coaches and great teammates. I’m sorry we didn’t move sooner.

[Anonymous]

We were in a situation where we had two different coaches. The first one came and left after 3 months. The second one had his favorites, and it was clear he was not going to play my son. We left and it was the best decision. We found a coach who was going to support our DC development.