“Don’t work with her”

[Anonymous]

I just found out that a coworker has told a few people not to work with me or ask for my help. Not sure why. I don’t directly work with this person and never really have.

I have been at this company longer than her but just joined her department about 2 years ago.

WTD?

[Anonymous]

I'd approach her and ask about it. Not name names of who came to you, but that you have been given the impression that she is telling people to avoid you, and that your reputation is important to you and you'd like to discuss it.

[Anonymous]

Is this public or private sector? I’m betting it’s public sector, but that will help inform the advice.

[Anonymous]

Private company


quote=Anonymous]Is this public or private sector? I’m betting it’s public sector, but that will help inform the advice.

[Anonymous]

ask them what rationale she gave for saying this and then decide whether it's fair and applicable and something to work on or whether it's wildly off base in which case talk to HR.

[Anonymous]

Start messing with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd approach her and ask about it. Not name names of who came to you, but that you have been given the impression that she is telling people to avoid you, and that your reputation is important to you and you'd like to discuss it.

This.

[Anonymous]

Figure out exactly what she said with regard to why. There could be a defamation suit there if what she said isn't true. Not saying you sue, but you could definitely threaten her with it.

[Anonymous]

I’d leave it alone. Just do your job and people will see who the problem really is. If it’s not you, that’ll be obvious.

[Anonymous]

Women are such haters. If I think about all the people I’ve been told to flat out avoid it’s ALWAYS ALWAYS 50 year old women. I’ve never been warned about a man even the awful ones.

[Anonymous]

OP, there could be a very good reason she is saying that. There could be a misunderstanding about what she is saying. Or she could be a terrible coworker who is out to get you.

Without more information, there is no way to know.

Talk to her.

[Anonymous]

Do you have regular check-ins with your boss? If so, mention it to your boss. Frame it as “this is a weird one but I’d appreciate your advice/guidance on this…”

[Anonymous]

I’d Facebook stalk her, figure out who she’s married to, and then sleep with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d Facebook stalk her, figure out who she’s married to, and then sleep with him.

LOL

[Anonymous]

It happens in schools. I know how some teachers befriend parents and start gossiping about which teachers to avoid in upcoming grades. Years ago, in a public French immersion school, one of the teachers, not French but a Romanian Israeli, was cold calling parents and telling them to avoid certain teachers because of their “ thick Arab accent” even though the teachers came from French speaking countries. Though completely certified, the non tenured one had to retake the county French proficiency test. The others brought attestations from the director of the Alliance Française that their accent was similar to a French regional accent. In fact, one of them was an Alliance Française instructor.