Meeting with boss
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Anonymous
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My boss just sent me a calendar invite for a meeting for next Tuesday. I have no idea what the meeting is about. I’m a bit concerned about this meeting. I returned from maternity leave three months ago and two weeks after I returned, my boss sent me a calendar invite to have a “check-in” meeting. No big deal, I thought. Instead, he really wanted to talk to me about how Suzzie doesn’t want to hear about my daughter and doesn’t want to see any pictures. I had only briefly mentioned to Suzzie that maternity leave was wonderful, and showed her the cover photo on my iPhone. It was just two sentences worth. I’m concerned because today, Suzzie, Matt, and I were talking and Matt asked if my baby was rolling and babbling yet. I replied, “oh yes! It’s amazing!” Matt has two daughters, Suzzie has two sons. We’re all parents. I worry that Suzzie complained to my boss again. I also wonder why she doesn’t just speak to me about what she prefers. Would it be rude to ask my boss what the meeting will be about? |
Anonymous
| This is not answering the question you asked but I would not want to work at this place. |
Anonymous
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You can ask what the meeting is about for sure. And can share you want to be prepared or ask if there is anything you can review or prepare in advance. Nothing wrong with that.
Why would your coworker complain that you have spoken about your daughter? |
Anonymous
This. At my workplace, if someone said "Hey, OP is talking about her baby and I do not want to hear about it" we would say, well, tough kitties I guess, sometimes we have to listen to people talk about things that annoy us. I can't imagine taking a complaint like that seriously enough to pass it along to the "offending" employee. |
Anonymous
| Suzzie sounds nuts. |
Anonymous
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You're well within your rights to ask what the meeting is about. In fact, not mentioning anything about the reason for setting up the meeting is a dick move.
I would push back if boss brings up Suzzie's complaint again. I would be very professional and calm, but will ask for evidence since your recollection is so different. Basically, I would not be a doormat and rollover with this kind of accusation. If need be you may have to tell him that you feel Suzzie is out to get you and creating a toxic work environment. |
Anonymous
| What kind of company is it? |
Anonymous
Higher ed. |
Anonymous
| Wear a t-shirt with a giant picture of your baby on it to the meeting. |
Anonymous
| This is EEO territory. They can’t ask you not to mention your child. |
Anonymous
Ugh I work at a Virginia R1 and unfortunately work with similar insane lunatics, some of whom are VP or associate VP or associate to the associate VP. I have no advice just endless wells of sympathy for us having to work with these simpletons. |
Anonymous
| Well unfortunately you need to stop talking about personal stuff at work. Get in and get out. |