Out of my league

[Anonymous]

Have you ever dated someone you felt was out of your league? How did you deal with it? I don't want to end things, because I really like him.

[Anonymous]

Watch Knocked Up.

Don’t fixate on appearances too much. Don’t be so shallow.

[Anonymous]

I did for four years. He broke up with me at the end.

“Out of your league” can mean any things not just looks. We were in the same league physically—but he was way smarter, more accomplished and more successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch Knocked Up.

Don’t fixate on appearances too much. Don’t be so shallow.

As if Katherine Heigl or any women who look like her would really sleep with someone who looks like Seth Rogan.
I'm guessing you think Spiderman is real too.

[Anonymous]

If you are hot but not well-educated, and he is smart, well-educated and has a good job, I would be careful.

[Anonymous]

We aren't in the same league in any category. He is very educated, I am not. He is attractive, I am ugly. He is wealthy, I come from a blue collar family. I do not have low self esteem, but I am realistic and I know what I look like. He is wealthy, well traveled. He seems to really like me. We laugh a lot when we are together and have a good time. He talks about our future sometimes. He's older than me if that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch Knocked Up.

Don’t fixate on appearances too much. Don’t be so shallow.

Or Riding in Cars with Boys. That one didn't end up well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever dated someone you felt was out of your league? How did you deal with it? I don't want to end things, because I really like him.

If they want you, you ARE in their league.

[Anonymous]

He's never said anything bad about my attractiveness. He tells me all the time that he thinks I am hot. He is a fitness fanatic. He prefers bigger women and I'm on a health journey. I am very large. I have currently lost about 60 lbs. He is very supportive and encouraging. We even work out together.

[Anonymous]

He is with you of his own accord, no?

Why don't you free yourself of what seems to be low self-esteem and just take it on face value that he is with you b/c he wants to and that there are things he likes about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is with you of his own accord, no?

Why don't you free yourself of what seems to be low self-esteem and just take it on face value that he is with you b/c he wants to and that there are things he likes about you.

Thank you, I don't think it's low self-esteem. I thought I was just being realistic. But perhaps you're right.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I’m glad I dodged that bullet. Then again I’m more of a hippie and was exhausted by the pressure to keep up appearances. He was a nine and I was a 7 on my best day.

It can be intoxicating though I remember an attendant at a friends wedding one night just stared at us shocked and said we looked like a couple from a fairy tale. Being with someone like that really elevates you and opens doors, but it was not worth the self doubt. Plus he was high maintenance and high drama, which I guess is common when your face gets you so much easily. Very grateful I did not have kids with him I doubt if I could have made that work.

[Anonymous]

No. We are pretty equal in terms of looks and backgrounds (9-10 on scales).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watch Knocked Up.

Don’t fixate on appearances too much. Don’t be so shallow.

As if Katherine Heigl or any women who look like her would really sleep with someone who looks like Seth Rogan.
I'm guessing you think Spiderman is real too.

Google Seth Rogen’s wife IRL,

[Anonymous]

I was 21 and just her liking me made me think she must have something wrong with her or she and her friends were playing some kind of cruel joke. Nope, we just clicked and we had a wonderful few months together before she went off to college and stopped returning my calls. My stock price skyrocketed for about a year after but the market eventually figured me out.