So worried about bullying

[Anonymous]

We are moving to a new school district and I just read some terrible things online about bullying, which I'd never heard.

I know it can and does happen everywhere, but my DS is very quirky, atypical kind of kid. I just feel sick with worry about him starting school this fall (1st grade).

[Anonymous]

In the younger grades, kids are generally pretty nice and accepting. Just reach out to the teacher to see how things are going if you have any concerns. Don’t worry about it now.

[Anonymous]

Time for him to blend-in. It's a skill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time for him to blend-in. It's a skill.

Ok, bully.

[Anonymous]

Hierarchical order for boys in ES has a lot to do with athletic prowess, which is something that you can work with.

[Anonymous]

It happens more in 4th grade and up.

[Anonymous]

Teacher here. First grade, they are literally all friends. He will be fine.

[Anonymous]

OP, be ready to report early and escalate as needed.

The bullies’ parents and many teachers are fast to blame the victims, but if you advocate for him, you’ll often prevail.

[Anonymous]

I’ve worked with kids this age, most of them are very sweet and honestly they are still transitioning from being babies. Kids this age think it’s funny to talk about bathroom stuff so at most you might get kids calling another kid a poopy baby. It’s not really bullying as much as they like to talk about poop.

[Anonymous]

If you are moving soon, can you put him in summer day camp or a summer rec league so he can hopefully get to know the area kids?

I agree with the athletics comment. since putting DS into sports he has really normalized (for better or worse) and made lots of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hierarchical order for boys in ES has a lot to do with athletic prowess, which is something that you can work with.

Shut up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hierarchical order for boys in ES has a lot to do with athletic prowess, which is something that you can work with.

Shut up

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hierarchical order for boys in ES has a lot to do with athletic prowess, which is something that you can work with.

Shut up

+100

OP here, +1000

We aren't going to teach our kid to fit in or become a sports God as has been suggested 🙃

Thank you for the reassurance, everyone else. I know he has some challenges ahead with learning disabilities. He's such a good person and I do worry about his mental health. Sounds like advocacy is really our best bet. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hierarchical order for boys in ES has a lot to do with athletic prowess, which is something that you can work with.

Shut up

+100

OP here, +1000

We aren't going to teach our kid to fit in or become a sports God as has been suggested 🙃

Thank you for the reassurance, everyone else. I know he has some challenges ahead with learning disabilities. He's such a good person and I do worry about his mental health. Sounds like advocacy is really our best bet. Thanks.

I’m joining the rec soccer team isn’t teaching him to become a sports god. What melodrama. At this age it’s about being with kids in his grade and running around a little and eating snacks.