It's not very young whatsoever. I don't know why you think it's a flex to be a 60-year old with a teenager, and yeah it's a lot worse having kids in your 50s. You are listing a bunch of celebrities that I am sure you know are outsourcing nearly every facet of raising a kid, right? They have a FT nanny and housekeeper and lots of $$$s. So, the moral of your story is to first get very rich (and probably famous)...and then just keep popping them out because it's not like you will be changing any diapers. |
Here’s what I’m NOT going to do (courtesy of my late parents AND elderly ILs):
- proclaim that I love my house so much that I’ll never, ever leave - ever - keep every closet, a two car garage and an unfinished basement of my nearly lifelong home packed and cluttered - have 4 cars and one driver - make vague plans to sell my house but quit all meaningful activities in order to spend a full year decluttering so I can better ready my house for a future sale - refuse long term care insurance and instead earmark a significant percentage of my modest life savings for “in home care” and hope this cover my/my spouse’s future needs - continue to buy, collect, shop en masse quantities to include Costco runs (for 2) |
How many people on here have had a good experience with long-term care insurance kicking in as needed? Based on my little research and anecdotal evidence, many of us are betting on self-funding. |
Same. Can’t wait to say goodbye to my suburban house and get an easy condo in a great location. I will not keep a big house in hopes my kids come visit. |
Yes—we pay for the vacation rental or the hotel/guest suite for our kids/family. It’s more fun to be in the city and we have plenty of room to entertain in our condo for up to 8-10 people, just need a place for them to sleep. Once grandkids come, we will visit them for holidays or rent a house somewhere so we are all together. But with adults, the hotel room for night is great |
Agree with earlier PP. 35-40 is young to stop having kids. I had my second at 37. Most people I know are still having kids into their early 40s. I know one person with surprise twins at 45. I won't have kids in college until my mid-50s. I don't suspect grandparenting will even begin before age 65. I think 70 is more likely. |
And all of the people you listed also had kids in their 20s and 30s. They all have 4+ children and their children have different moms. This can’t be a serious post. |
The ones I know regret it and will tell their kids to start earlier and the twins are usually IVF babies which nobody thinks was a pleasant surprise. |
Don't buy it. Market will go insolvent in the next few decades from people buying LTC Insurance after receiving APOE4 carrier status results from 23&Me. |
Well that's you, honey. Do you understand that other people have different thoughts than you do? That your beliefs are not universal? I'm glad i didn't stop and instead persisted. My kids are glad I persisted, too. p.s. only someone who has never tried to adopt would be so cavalier about it and say "well I'd just adopt." Naivete at its worst. |
Why would I have wanted to choose not to have a kid at 40 just because someone like you thinks it's terrible to have kids still in college when you are 60? What a bizarre thing to say. I'm glad not to be an empty nester at age 55. I love having my kids around and am glad they aren't yet gone. Different strokes for different folks. |
More power to you. We will absolutely be retiring at 55. Maybe sooner. We had our second and final child at 31. |
No kid relate - but I busted my butt to get my first big job at 44. Why the heck would I throw it all away at 55 to sit home all day in a tiny shoebox when I downsize watching soap operas and reality TV waiting to die. Instead I got a bigger job at 55. Was pretty exciting working on a two billion dollar project at a start up and seeing it through launch. So much that when it ended I did a second start up at 58. Finally at 61 my start up life ended and I decided I wanted to do something political in DC on the Hill. Which I am doing, exciting energy working on Capital Hill My career was and is most exciting post 55. I also bought a huge trade up home at 55 moving from 1,600 sf to 6,100 sf. I am thinking maybe 63 I could try CEO or run for office. Then I was thinking around 67 join a few boards. Why be in a rush to die. I heard that retired men die with 5-7 years regardless of year you retire. Men who retire younger just die younger. All the old men on my block work at least part time. My neighbor a psychologist works part time and had people over for Super Bowl at his 7,000 sf house and he is 90. Was he supposed to downsize and retire 35 years ago? My last kid won’t be out till I am 70. I am not packing up a 6,100 sf house just to make some child brides happy. Until kids are married with kids thanksgiving, Xmas, graduations, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day all at my house. |
My kids in my 30s were not planned. I was not planning them at all so I certainly would not have wanted them younger!! My friend was one and done and shocked with twins at 45. She thought she was in menopause for missing a period. She was pregnant. My great grandma had her last whoops baby at age 42 in the 1930s. Most of my friends had their first kids ages 40-45. I had my first at 34 and was the youngest. Second surprise at 37. Also, I don’t care about grandchildren. Irrelevant. Still telling my kids not to have kids until at least 30 at the youngest. |
Sure multimillionaires have kids into their 70s. Normal people do not. You will be 67 when your last kid finished college (if in a 4 year plan). I plan to be 56when my last finishes. We can retire knowing kids are independent at 56/57. While you spend those next 10 years being a taxi for HS events and working to keep good insurance and pay for college, we will be retired and traveling the world |