The guilt around weening toddler

[Anonymous]

From the breastfeeding community is unreal.

It’s ok to stop whenever you want. You won’t permanently damage your relationship with your toddler by stopping your nursing relationship. They will be ok.

You are entitled to your body over everyone else.

These platforms needs to place as much value on the mothers autonomy and mental health as the child’s.

Think of it as a lesson for your toddler in bodily autonomy and consent. Not a punishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the breastfeeding community is unreal.

It’s ok to stop whenever you want. You won’t permanently damage your relationship with your toddler by stopping your nursing relationship. They will be ok.

You are entitled to your body over everyone else.

These platforms needs to place as much value on the mothers autonomy and mental health as the child’s.

Think of it as a lesson for your toddler in bodily autonomy and consent. Not a punishment.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the breastfeeding community is unreal.

It’s ok to stop whenever you want. You won’t permanently damage your relationship with your toddler by stopping your nursing relationship. They will be ok.

You are entitled to your body over everyone else.

These platforms needs to place as much value on the mothers autonomy and mental health as the child’s.

Think of it as a lesson for your toddler in bodily autonomy and consent. Not a punishment.

Ok?

[Anonymous]

I breastfed 3 kids without the community and somehow survived. I stopped at different points for different reasons with each kid. I never felt the need to be in a community about feeding a baby.

[Anonymous]

They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

You sound defensive about your decision. I wonder why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

You sound defensive about your decision. I wonder why?

Found the crazy lady still whipping out her boob on demand for her preschooler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

You sound defensive about your decision. I wonder why?

Be gone with you, nipple hippie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can shove it. I weaned at 10 months and my baby didn’t give af lol. I’m not taking seriously anyone who tries to claim that weaning is somehow damaging at any age.

You sound defensive about your decision. I wonder why?

Found the crazy lady still whipping out her boob on demand for her preschooler.

Actually, my infant self-weaned at exactly 10 months. And I still say you sound defensive.

[Anonymous]

Who is guilting you? This is a weirdly vague attention post…feels troll.

[Anonymous]

I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

See, this would have made a better OP.

[Anonymous]

My baby weened of her own volition at 14 months and my friends who were really into breastfeeding told me I needed to trick her into continuing to breastfeed by withholding solid foods or never letting her have cow's milk.

I was sad when she started rejecting breastfeeding, and I also had a negative hormonal reaction (normal with cessation of breastfeeding at any time), but it felt like the natural course of things. It was so weird how I could accept it despite dealing with the hormonal challenges but other people viewed it as some kind of failure. I think for some people, stopping breastfeeding anytime before kindergarten, for any reason, is a sign of weakness. So bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

OP, this is 16:52. I absolutely get it. Guess what, my kid breastfed for less than half as long as yours did and she's better than fine! She's 6, loves school, has friends, is fun and silly, and is very healthy and rarely gets sick. Of course we have our challenges, but none of them are due to when she stopped breastfeeding.

I think for some women it just becomes a point of pride and superiority. They view women who breastfeed for less time as less committed, less willing to sacrifice for their child, less health-conscious, just... less. The response I got to stopping breastfeeding when I did has actually made me a bigger advocate for "fed is best" and I'm more vocally supportive of women who choose to skip breast-feeding, decide to stop doing it earlier than others, or who choose to combo feed. I wasn't opposed to any of those things before, but now I speak up and advocate for people because I know how bad it feels to have people judging you and treating you as an insufficient mother just because you aren't nursing your child anymore. I'm glad you are speaking up too!