ADHD but does well in school and not hyper?

[Anonymous]

Forgive me I’m new to this. But has anyone had a child in elementary school with ADHD that presented itself mostly in social interactions? As in, does well in school and follows instructions. Not hyperactive. But suffers from executive functioning with regulation of emotions and interactions with others. Is very social and able to make friends easily but is so in a rush to contribute to conversations that they don’t listen to what others say, or pause to think if what they’re saying is appropriate? It feels like everything these days is adhd or asd. It’s hard to know what to think. Thanks for listening. Welcoming opinions.

[Anonymous]

you might look up a Vanderbilt questionnaire or the DSM for ADHD. What you are describing could be inattentive ADHD or just lack of executive functioning that does not rise to the level of a diagnosis.

ADHD also needs to present in more than one setting. For an elementary school age child, it's usually "home" and "school."

[Anonymous]

Also what is the age of your DC? There is a big difference between 1st grade and 5th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also what is the age of your DC? There is a big difference between 1st grade and 5th grade.

Op here. 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

[Anonymous]

That’s how it is with my now 4th grade girl. Grades are fine, she’s learning and nothing would have been flagged based on academics. But she struggles a bit socially and hates school sometimes. Also she’s highly sensitive.

She doesn’t have academic accommodations now, but we’re keeping an eye on it as school gets harder and she can’t “mask” as much.

[Anonymous]

PP here with the 4th grader. It was hard to tell if it was just emotional immaturity and a bad classroom situation - I also think a lot of her friends are similarly neuro-spicy- so it seems within the range of normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

Being able to make friends and have respectful conversations with others matters in school, even if it doesn't drag down your grades.

[Anonymous]

DD was diagnosed ADHD at the end of 3rd grade. Academically she was doing phenomenal. Socially, awful.. she’s a big talker and tends to blurt things out without thinking. Emotional dysregulation was the biggest part of it, as well as executive functioning. Also want to add, the psychologist did not find ASD, but the school psych evaluated and did find strong signs… I see it now that I’ve researched it more. She was principal placed into AAP this year during our IEP meeting, and she truly found her people in that class. There were more kids like her and has so many more friends. This year has been a breeze compared to last year when undiagnosed. All that to say yes, academics are not always a part of ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

Being able to make friends and have respectful conversations with others matters in school, even if it doesn't drag down your grades.

+1 being able to function socially will effect your entire life, self esteem, sense of worth, and will be extremely impactful on career

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

Yikes! Ms. 3rd grade teacher, you do not sound very professional knowledgeable.

How often do you assign your 3rd graders to work in groups - the social skills are affecting the ADHD kid every time you do this. How often do you flash the verbally impulsive ADHDer a look of irritation when she interrupts you? Believe me she catches it and her internal heightened emotionality means she is wondering each time if you dislike her.

If she has ADHD and it's not affecting grades in ES, that means she is probably pretty bright and already knows what you are teaching anyway. So she's compensating on the basis of her own knowledge. The good grades don't necessarily mean she is learning something you taught.

[Anonymous]

That’s not ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here with the 4th grader. It was hard to tell if it was just emotional immaturity and a bad classroom situation - I also think a lot of her friends are similarly neuro-spicy- so it seems within the range of normal.

“neuro-spicy” is not a thing.

if your kid does well in school without meds or accomodations, and has multiple friends, they are not developmentally disabled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

Being able to make friends and have respectful conversations with others matters in school, even if it doesn't drag down your grades.

ALL kids need to learn that. Honestly since when does needing some guidance to learn manners and being “respectful” mean a disability? I honestly do not understand the increasing number of people and parents claiming they/their kids have ADHD despite apparently the child having no struggles outside of the normal expectable ones. Your kid not being perfect is not a disability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade teacher here. The answer is yes. I have had many ADHD students like this. Honestly, if it does not affect academics, it truly does not matter in the school setting. Just continue to work on social skills. The counselor can help with this as well.

Being able to make friends and have respectful conversations with others matters in school, even if it doesn't drag down your grades.

+1 being able to function socially will effect your entire life, self esteem, sense of worth, and will be extremely impactful on career

social deficits are autism not ADHD.