Communication w/ HS counselor on your teen’s behalf

[Anonymous]

What’s the protocol for reaching out to your high schooler’s GC on you teen’s behalf? Or should I let him continue to manage all interactions with her?

For background, it’s regarding one of the classes he selected for next year and also about getting her approval for a potential summer class. He’s just been slow getting to a resolution with her so I was going to jump in but was wondering if that’s a bad look?

As a sophomore we typically let him manage all his communications with his teachers and GC but I’m concerned his intended classes will fill up with him dragging his feet.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

[Anonymous]

I let my kid make the first move. When he doesn't get responses I jump in and CC him. Funny how staff at the school are quick to reply when a parent gets involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

DP. Huh? My parents never met with nor spoke to any of my high school teachers or counselors. They didn’t even look at my college applications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I let my kid make the first move. When he doesn't get responses I jump in and CC him. Funny how staff at the school are quick to reply when a parent gets involved.

His GC is responsive and they have a good relationship. It’s DS who takes too long to follow up with her, which is also not a good look. (And drives me crazy)

Per a PP, I won’t interfere and will let him continue to drive this for now…

[Anonymous]

I'd be more likely to jump in and manage my kid's interactions first. We did a lot of talking through how to write emails, how to follow up, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

DP. Huh? My parents never met with nor spoke to any of my high school teachers or counselors. They didn’t even look at my college applications.

NP - Clearly everyone is different. My parents had calls with my HS teachers and guidance counselors, my mother picked all my classes. They filled out my college applications for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

I handled everything school-related when I was in high school. Where did you grow up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be more likely to jump in and manage my kid's interactions first. We did a lot of talking through how to write emails, how to follow up, etc.

+1

In this situation I think it's appropriate to micromanage your kid with the goal of making them be more independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

DP. Huh? My parents never met with nor spoke to any of my high school teachers or counselors. They didn’t even look at my college applications.

NP - Clearly everyone is different. My parents had calls with my HS teachers and guidance counselors, my mother picked all my classes. They filled out my college applications for me.

Mine did too. I pick with my child but I handle a lot of it.

[Anonymous]

I require mine to make the first attempts and encourage follow ups. But f she asks I will intervene. But she’s really good about handling things someone asks, she’s hit a wall.

[Anonymous]

I would normally side with letting your kid do it but in your case I would jump in. Course selection is a big deal and you don't want him stuck with a bad course all year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I let my kid make the first move. When he doesn't get responses I jump in and CC him. Funny how staff at the school are quick to reply when a parent gets involved.

My kid's HS made a big deal about students driving the process. The students were then often ignored, stalled, given incorrect information or refused. Parents were sometimes ignored too but the odds were much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. This is for them to do. Your kid needs to do it themselves.

Why do we expect high school students to do this when we were not expected to do this when we were high school students?

DP. Huh? My parents never met with nor spoke to any of my high school teachers or counselors. They didn’t even look at my college applications.

NP - Clearly everyone is different. My parents had calls with my HS teachers and guidance counselors, my mother picked all my classes. They filled out my college applications for me.

Mine did too. I pick with my child but I handle a lot of it.

Both of you had your moms fill out your college applications? How old are you now?