Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
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Anonymous
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Just confirmed the affair 100%, sadly both EA and physical now.
Not sure what will happen with me and DH. He’s ending it, as he says he wants “us” over her. But we obv have a LOT to figure out. But being in a world of anger and pain, I feel that AP should not get off scott free. I’m assuming she loves my DH, so his ending it will hurt. Any reason why I should not blow up her marriage as she/DH have done mine? |
Anonymous
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I would not involve someone else for several reasons. One, you may want to save your marriage, and having someone vengeful against you may make it harder. It may also make it more public.
At least give yourself time to make a clear-headed decision before you go public with this, inadvertently or not. Sorry for your pain. |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
| I would do it, but I'm vengeful |
Anonymous
| You could make something that’s ugly, really ugly and make your life worse. Focus on dealing with your husband. |
Anonymous
| I emailed him at work. |
Anonymous
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100%
He deserves to know too. |
Anonymous
| Is he attractive? Perhaps you all could figure out a swap arrangement? |
Anonymous
| I would. Not to be vengeful but because I think people have a right to know if their spouse is cheating and there is a 3rd sexual partner in their marriage. I would want to be told if he knew. |
Anonymous
Same. And he does deserve to know. |
Anonymous
| Of course. |
Anonymous
| I would tell. They deserve to know. |
Anonymous
| I’d do it and tell them you caught herpes from someone in the trio so he’d better get tested. |
Anonymous
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Absolutely OBS deserves to know for their health and to make informed decisions about their own life. For example, I had a second kid during my husbands affair. I love my daughter to the ends of the earth but I NEVER would have brought another kid into that situation if I would have known.
Also, it keeps the AP and your WH accountable. Two BSs have two brains and 4 eyes on the situation. |
Anonymous
| Yes, definitely. |