Not sure what I need but need advice
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Anonymous
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We have a two year old and my wife is a stay at home spouse. My wife just needs some assistance during the day with house chores (laundry, dishawshing, etc) with some light child care duties. It sounds like we need a "mother's helper" but need more emphasis on household cleaning chores than childcare.
Where do I find such a person? I went on care.com and it sounds like people are either FT/PT nannies or housecleaners. |
Anonymous
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How many hours do you need?
I think of this as a "housekeeper" and not either a cleaner or a nanny. |
Anonymous
| Lower your standards Op. Make sure you aren't The One thinking she needs help. |
Anonymous
| You need a housekeeper and no childcare duties. A SAHP with the housecare/cleaning tasks taken off of their plate should be able to handle a 2 year old without assistance. If they can't, it's not safe for them to be in charge of the kid at all. |
Anonymous
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Not special needs.
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Anonymous
| Mother’s helpers don’t generally clean; they care for the child so the parent can clean. If your wife wants help without household chores (not childcare), what about getting a weekly cleaner or sending laundry out? If she wants actual childcare help, then yes, look for a mother’s helper. |
Anonymous
| Is your wife special needs? |
Anonymous
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What is wrong with you people - all parents need a break from their kids, if a mom wants a few hours 3x a week to go to the gym and shower and call her mom in peace, so be it (or what trash tv or do whatever else). I used to have a SAHM mom pay me for 6 hours a week so she could go read a book at starbucks. At the time I (20yo) thought it was pathetic, now as a mom I totally get it. You need a break from little toddler voices and just being mommied all the time
OP - college students are great for playing with a kid and tidying up (if they know thats the job expectation. My spouse travels a ton, I've had college students come help with bedtime and then clean up the kitchen and they do a phenomenal job If you want more cleaning vs tidying, separate the two services and get a cleaning service and a baby sitter Definitely don't get a career nanny type |
Anonymous
| Where are you located? We had a housekeeper that lived in during the week and went to her house on the weekends. It was $600 a week. We found her by asking a friend's trusted housecleaner. |
Anonymous
But why if they have the means not to? There’s no award for cleaning your own toilets, prepping your own meals, and giving up all personal hobbies and activities |
Anonymous
Why does anyone need an award for home maintenance? Why does one need an award for lifestyle change after a child? I don't understand this need to be compensated for procreating. It's all part of the deal of having a family. |
Anonymous
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If it were me, I’d hire a part time nanny/sitter. I’d happily zone out & clean the bathrooms/run laundry while nanny takes the kid to the park…a mental break can be really healthy for the full time parent.
But, I know other moms who would never give up the childrearing & would totally choose to have a weekly cleaner come in to do the cleaning while they go to story time with the kid. So- ask your wife! It is much easier to hire one or the other ( someone who comes to clean 2 or 3 x wk, or someone who comes to babysit 2 or 3 x wk). And then try it out, you can always adjust. |
Anonymous
| Asvertise on Care for a sitter who can help with light housework for $30-$35 an hour and like a 10 or 15 hour minimum and you'll get hits. Good luck. |
Anonymous
At $600/week you were taking advantage of this housekeeper. |
Anonymous
You have no idea how many hours the house keeper was working. you just want to be put out |