Dating My Exes Friend

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up at the end of the year after a year together. We had a good relationship but we were mismatched and amicably split up. During the relationship, I was introduced to his friend ( more of a friend of a friend deal) and hung out with him in a group several times. I found him cute and interesting in the limited time we talked. We ran into each other alone weeks after my breakup and he asked for my number. We hung out 5 times and ended up hooking up twice. We went on an “official” date a month ago and it was really great. Since then we have been almost inseparable and he asked me to be his date to a wedding next month. I’m not sure what to say because my ex will be there. He doesn’t find it to be an issue but I feel it may be awkward for all parties.

[Anonymous]

Of course it will be awkward. If you had an amicable break up with your ex I would give him a heads up and say that you can't wait to catch up. But then don't talk to him too much.

[Anonymous]

How will you feel if your ex decides to date one of your close female friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How will you feel if your ex decides to date one of your close female friends?

She said "friend of a friend" not close friend.

I think it's fine. He knows you aren't going to be single forever. Who cares who you date?

[Anonymous]

Be polite and give your ex a heads up.

[Anonymous]

My now husband was a work friend of my most recent ex and it was never an issue. Our breakup had been amicable so it wasn’t an issue. He went on to marry the ex GF of my husbands roommate when my husband and I started dating. This is sounding very incestous..

[Anonymous]

My brother introduced a woman we grew up with to one of his roommates. When it didn’t work out after a few dates, the other roommate asked the first roommate if it would be okay if he asked the woman out. Our childhood friend and the second roommate have been married over 20 years and everyone stayed friends. Depending how close your new boyfriend is to your ex, I think they should have a conversation. If they’re not close at all then I don’t think it’s needed.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone! His best friend and my bf are college friends. My ex and my bf are more close acquaintances than friends.

[Anonymous]

I cannot keep track of who is who in these scenarios, lol.

[Anonymous]

Interesting how you had sex twice before even going on an "official" date. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting how you had sex twice before even going on an "official" date. LOL.

OP here. We were having a great time. I’m not one for sleeping with someone so quickly but it felt right. Maybe those 5 times we hung out could be considered dates but I didn’t think of it like that. To me it was just a guy I was hanging out with and getting to know.

[Anonymous]

Let your ex know about it so it won’t be a surprise to him when you see him at the wedding.

[Anonymous]

You're no longer in a relationship with your ex. I would let your new boyfriend worry about it-- it's his relationship with your ex that is at risk, and he isn't worried about it.

[Anonymous]

Threesome alert! Don’t imbibe too much at tje wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be polite and give your ex a heads up.

Even though you are under zero obligation to do this > I would just out of common decency OP.

If your ex ends up having an issue w/it - then that is on them however.

Not you.