When to tell your kids about HS results?

[Anonymous]

So first kid is applying for selective HS.

Any experience of when is good or bad to inform them of results? This assumes we might have that information tomorrow morning.

[Anonymous]

As soon as possible if it good news.

[Anonymous]

I'm telling mine during breakfast. She has a very supportive friend group, so I think, good or bad, they'll be able to support one another at school tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Yes, during breakfast tomorrow if it's out by then. It will be all the kids at school are talking about tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, during breakfast tomorrow if it's out by then. It will be all the kids at school are talking about tomorrow.

If it's out by then? I was thinking it would be out by midnight!

[Anonymous]

Other threads here are saying 10 PM tonight.

[Anonymous]

Not tonight whether the news was good or bad. Let them sleep.

[Anonymous]

As soon as you get them. News doesn't get better or worse when you wait.

[Anonymous]

Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

Hugs to you and your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

Hugs to you and your kid.

My child is still in his first year of middle school and we have never done lottery, so I am not in your shoes yet, but already surrounded by this situation regardless. This makes me sad to hear that kids get so upset about this. It is understandable to want a specific program, or to go where friends are going, but the comments I have heard kids say amongst other children putting down various schools has always upset me as well. Kids around then may be planning on going to those schools, having siblings at those schools, etc - and not to say we should all just drop lottery and go to IB schools, but I wish parents (and then it would trickle down to kids) would model language that can be excited about a specific application school without the implied our outloud comments about how bad other choices are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

Hugs to you and your kid.

My child is still in his first year of middle school and we have never done lottery, so I am not in your shoes yet, but already surrounded by this situation regardless. This makes me sad to hear that kids get so upset about this. It is understandable to want a specific program, or to go where friends are going, but the comments I have heard kids say amongst other children putting down various schools has always upset me as well. Kids around then may be planning on going to those schools, having siblings at those schools, etc - and not to say we should all just drop lottery and go to IB schools, but I wish parents (and then it would trickle down to kids) would model language that can be excited about a specific application school without the implied our outloud comments about how bad other choices are.

This is preschool mom talk. There is no language modeling that can change the facts on the ground. 8th graders know perfectly well what's going on, and perfectly well how bad their other options are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

Hugs to you and your kid.

My child is still in his first year of middle school and we have never done lottery, so I am not in your shoes yet, but already surrounded by this situation regardless. This makes me sad to hear that kids get so upset about this. It is understandable to want a specific program, or to go where friends are going, but the comments I have heard kids say amongst other children putting down various schools has always upset me as well. Kids around then may be planning on going to those schools, having siblings at those schools, etc - and not to say we should all just drop lottery and go to IB schools, but I wish parents (and then it would trickle down to kids) would model language that can be excited about a specific application school without the implied our outloud comments about how bad other choices are.

Sorry, what? My kid (who is still in bed) applied to selective schools and was rejected. He is crushed. What does this have to do with modeling language and saying schools are good or bad choices?

We are very lucky that our IB school is JR. We, the parents, know that he's going to be fine. We've been talking up JR (a school that is a little daunting to him, coming from a small charter.) He eventually will understand that he'll be fine, too. But today, he is despondent, and I have empathy for him. This is a lot for 13-year-olds.

[Anonymous]

You have to rank your choices. You need to at least talk to your child about that. No comment at home is unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told this morning. DC won't get out of bed.

Hugs to you and your kid.

My child is still in his first year of middle school and we have never done lottery, so I am not in your shoes yet, but already surrounded by this situation regardless. This makes me sad to hear that kids get so upset about this. It is understandable to want a specific program, or to go where friends are going, but the comments I have heard kids say amongst other children putting down various schools has always upset me as well. Kids around then may be planning on going to those schools, having siblings at those schools, etc - and not to say we should all just drop lottery and go to IB schools, but I wish parents (and then it would trickle down to kids) would model language that can be excited about a specific application school without the implied our outloud comments about how bad other choices are.

Ok, so then what are you going to do? Send them off to Dunbar, yay Dunbar, and hope they don't catch on?

You need to understand that for a lot of us, it's application school or we move, and the kid will know it. 8th graders aren't stupid.