Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

[Anonymous]

You are out of line.

[Anonymous]

YTA.

[Anonymous]

Wow...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

You're so far out of line you probably can't see the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

That's just mean.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

You are out of line. A graduation celebrates his accomplishment of completing college. I'm sure that your child knows that you disapprove of him.

[Anonymous]

Wow. These are difficult times for college graduates. Not everyone will have a job at graduation or at least not one directly tied to their field of study.

[Anonymous]

Wow.

This must the preview post to the "my adult child never comes home to visit me, don't they know I am their mother and they owe me?" style post in about 5-10 years.

[Anonymous]

That’s crazy. Also counterproductive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. A graduation celebrates his accomplishment of completing college. I'm sure that your child knows that you disapprove of him.

Why did you assume it's a son? DC = dear child. Genderless.

[Anonymous]

Not only are YTA you’re a horrible human being.

Graduating is a big accomplishment. I hope your kid has family other than you because you’re awful.

[Anonymous]

It can be hard to find a first job. Academic study doesn't always reveal which skills will be most marketable.

I moved home during a recession and job searched without benefit of the internet. I found a well-paying summer internship but it took me a year post-graduation to find a decent job. Once I moved out, I've been financially responsible for myself ever since. Including getting a full-tuition grad school scholarship and paying for my wedding reception.

I would have been really bitter if my parents had been mean to me at graduation time. I worked hard to do well in school, knowing that I'd eventually want to go to a top grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. These are difficult times for college graduates. Not everyone will have a job at graduation or at least not one directly tied to their field of study.

DC is not trying. I'm so fed up. DC thinks we're bluffing, they are not coming back home after graduation. I've bent over backwards to help and DC just blows us off.