Would you try for a baby in this situation?

[Anonymous]

I’m 41, DH is 45. It would be our second child, first born 4 years ago. DH has had some cardiac issues since then, which are controlled with medications. Would you be worried about the effect of daily, long term meds on the baby + our ages? TIA

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be

[Anonymous]

Depends-what kind of cardiac issues?

[Anonymous]

I was with you until the heart issues. There’s nothing more stressful than having a new baby when you have other kids to deal with. Are you sure you want this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends-what kind of cardiac issues?

Coronary artery disease, stent placed

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't. Your age plus his issues.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t. Especially due to your ages, the chances of a new baby with their own health problems would be a lot to deal with.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. A healthy, vibrant 45, probably/maybe, but not someone who just got a stent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 41, DH is 45. It would be our second child, first born 4 years ago. DH has had some cardiac issues since then, which are controlled with medications. Would you be worried about the effect of daily, long term meds on the baby + our ages? TIA

I would talk to his doctor. Does your dh also want another child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 41, DH is 45. It would be our second child, first born 4 years ago. DH has had some cardiac issues since then, which are controlled with medications. Would you be worried about the effect of daily, long term meds on the baby + our ages? TIA

I would talk to his doctor. Does your dh also want another child?

He’s not enthusiastic but he’d probably go along with it if I really wanted to. Since the stent placement he’s been doing well, and is active and energetic.

[Anonymous]

I would! Do it now OP, or you will regret it when it’s too late. I was 41 when our second was born, and our older DC is 4 years older. It’s the perfect age gap imo. I am so happy we went for #2 and regret not going for a 3rd a couple of years later. I don’t love the idea of an only child. Both Dh and I have siblings and loved that growing up.
Ps. I would urge your DH to up the life insurance, just in case.

[Anonymous]

No. Having a newborn gave my DH hypertension, and having our second baby exacerbated it. It’s poorly controlled, so I worry about DH dying before our kids are in college. I wish we’d taken out more life insurance on him before his blood pressure got this bad.

[Anonymous]

I would ask his doctor and a MFM doctor and follow their advice.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.