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Want 99% assurance your lost child will be okay? Have him/her run to a lady
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Anonymous
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That's what I did. I don't care how it sounds. 99% of abductions are by men. So when my kid was little, I told him if he ever got separated from me, run to a lady (preferably with a child) and tell her you are lost. A lady with a child will not leave you until your mommy has been found.
Don't ever tell them to look for a man in a uniform or something they can't even figure out. Another mommy they can figure out. |
Anonymous
Have you read Protecting the Gift by Gavin de Becker? Superb book. Sounds like you're stealing one of his lines, albeit an important and well thought out one. 
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Anonymous
| I agree OP-- I always tell my children if you are lost, go to a mom with kids and ask for help. |
Anonymous
| Me too |
Anonymous
| I believe that most male abductors are known to the family. So in the situation you described, which is potential abduction by a stranger, the statistics may not bear out. |
Anonymous
| I am just happy to read people are actually addressing this potential danger. Whether you're telling your children to seek out a mommy or someone in uniform, just tell them something. Give them the knowledge and tools they need to be safe. |
Anonymous
The idea is that sending them to someone in uniform might well be sending them INTO harms way -- it can be very difficult for a child to tell the difference between a "security guard" and a police officer, the former often having criminal histories. Sending your child to a convicted criminal probably isn't what most people would choose to do -- thus the look for a woman, or ideally, as I tell my kids, a mommy. |
Anonymous
I'm not the OP, but it isn't just about abduction. If my kid is lost, I for one am not thinking she's likely to be abducted -- that really is quite rare -- I just want her back safe and sound. I worry more about sexual assault -- and again, the woman is the safer choice. |
Anonymous
same. I think it's ridiculous what they would tell you in school when I was a kid -- look for a police officer. When do I ever see police officers around? I say ask a mommy for help. |
Anonymous
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I have told my child to either look for a mommy or "someone who works there" (if we are talking about a store).
My son and I now play scenarios (if a stranger offers you candy - what do you say?). He was getting really good at saying no. Even if the stranger said mommy is in the car. So then I tried, "if a stranger says he has cake in the car, and asks if you want to go with him to eat it, what do you say?" And my son said "yes." When I told him he shouldn't ever go with a stranger, he said "but he had cake, and I really really like cake, so I'm going with him" Not sure whether to laugh or be scared out of my mind. |
Anonymous
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I agree. Let's children young to distrust men. Women never harm children in anyway.
I am sick and tired of anti-male BS. |
Anonymous
| No one's saying that all women are safe and all men are unsafe. However, if you're trying to convey a simple safety message that your children can understand and remember when they're lost, "find a mommy" is a very good one and will offer them the most protection. It is what I will teach my child when she is old enough as well. It just makes sense. |
Anonymous
Exactly. |
Anonymous
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PP,
Are you that naive to think that just by finding a "mommy" your child will find a safe person. I have met more that a few women who would sell a child for the drug of their choice. |
Anonymous
| By the numbers women are a safer pick than men. A child needs a simple, realistic message they can remember. "Find a policeman" is unrealistic. "Find a person who looks safe" is ridiculous. "Find a woman" is easy, doable, and probably safer. A woman is less likely to do harm to a random child than a man is. |