Americans, does it bother you when immigrants complain about America?

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Anonymous wrote:No it does not. I have lived and traveled throughout Europe. America is the most racist and toxic place I have lived. Sadly my family is here.

lol. Sure it is. You’re so worldly yet you didn’t notice prejudices very common in Western European countries and quite a lot of Asia. I bet your study abroad in Florence was awash in American hating Vassar students all bemoaning how terrible America is. Or when you travel, did you leave the hotel? Hard to believe you lived anywhere other than maybe central London or something. Racism and prejudice is absolutely rampant all over Europe.

+1. I'm a white woman who lived in Europe for a long time. I was always shocked when the Germans/French/British--yes, all of these nationalities--would quietly make asides to me about how immigrants from Algeria/Pakistan/Senegal were ruining their country. They assumed it was safe to confide in because I'm a white American. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a white American man. I am an Asian immigrant who received her citizenship upon marriage to him.

Lately, he gets angry and defensive and calls me "anti-American" when I complain about various things. U.S. Foreign policy, the junk food, the lack of style of fellow Americans.

He says if I live here, I should be happy and not anti-patriotic.

Wondering if other Americans feel this way?

I'm not American by birth but by naturalization after coming here as a young expat in early 20's. I'm as patriotic as anyone else I know, probably more as I feel gratitude not entitlement. I'm a citizen, a tax payer and a voter with all the rights and responsibilities. If I want to complain about something which needs improvement, it doesn't make me unpatriotic but more patriotic compared to someone who doesn't care because they just inherited it due to good luck. Don't let him limit your freedom with his entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Change is inevitable, blaming it on immigrants, no matter if they came 100 years ago or 10, is easy way out for racists.

[Anonymous]

Its our home, no matter if we came here earlier or later, its safety and prosperity is our common goal so our children can grow here.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in Healthcare and I am the only US born person in my department. All of my coworkers talk about how much they hate it here! The food is a special complaint but also they complain about oversexualized culture and the men complain about women in the workforce. All of these except food should be verboten topics but I don't rock the boat. Occasionally I've asked why they're even living here and it's always "great money".
As an aside the higher ups were planning to bring in pizza to show their appreciation. I said that no one but me would eat it (last year they all refused it) and they really ought to order another type of food if they wanted people to enjoy it. We ended up with nothing.

Over sexualized culture? Where did they immigrate from? Salt Lake City? We are basically sexually repressed.

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Anonymous wrote:The only reason I’m still in this sh!thole country is because I can make the most money here.

Huh. The irony.

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Yes, it bugs me.

I have an in-laws from another country and it got old to listen to her complaints. I had no answer to many of her comments and felt that a lot of it was said to invoke shame. They moved to that country and now she is less critical of Americans.

I worked with many immigrants over the years and one thing that bugged me a lot was that they’d talk about how family-oriented they are or that they put family first. As if we don’t care. They weren’t looking closely at people’s lives and were just repeating stereotypes. And another person’s thing was to talk about how well-educated their family was in their country, and that in general their culture prizes learning more. I bought that until I realized that I would never bring up where my dad, mom, husband or other family members went to school and that they were impressive places. My family emphasized education but I’d never talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a white American man. I am an Asian immigrant who received her citizenship upon marriage to him.

Lately, he gets angry and defensive and calls me "anti-American" when I complain about various things. U.S. Foreign policy, the junk food, the lack of style of fellow Americans.

He says if I live here, I should be happy and not anti-patriotic.

Wondering if other Americans feel this way?

Ridiculous. He’s an idiot. He’s treating you like you should be a stereotype. How does this make you feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in Healthcare and I am the only US born person in my department. All of my coworkers talk about how much they hate it here! The food is a special complaint but also they complain about oversexualized culture and the men complain about women in the workforce. All of these except food should be verboten topics but I don't rock the boat. Occasionally I've asked why they're even living here and it's always "great money".
As an aside the higher ups were planning to bring in pizza to show their appreciation. I said that no one but me would eat it (last year they all refused it) and they really ought to order another type of food if they wanted people to enjoy it. We ended up with nothing.

Over sexualized culture? Where did they immigrate from? Salt Lake City? We are basically sexually repressed.

I’ve heard this too. This man explained to me how his sisters weren’t like American girls, they were conservative about sex. He said it like it was a common opinion. He was from Eritrea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a white American man. I am an Asian immigrant who received her citizenship upon marriage to him.

Lately, he gets angry and defensive and calls me "anti-American" when I complain about various things. U.S. Foreign policy, the junk food, the lack of style of fellow Americans.

He says if I live here, I should be happy and not anti-patriotic.

Wondering if other Americans feel this way?

Yes I do and I have no qualms about telling you that you are free to return to your home country. I have lived all over the world and my philosophy was very simple: I was a guest in that country and, as such, would behave as a guest and never complaint to a citizen if that country.

You might try to adopt my philosophy. The worst part is that you will become a citizen of a country you dislike and find our customs,food, and style offensive to your very delicate senses and a martyr to love because the man you married lives in a first world country! Millions of people would give anything to live here. We have a lot of problems.but having lived in Europe, Asia, and South America, I know the United States of America is the best place to live.

You disgust me.

Not OP but how about take down the stupid just a notch. Citizens of this country have the right to complain about anything and everything. Just like you do.

I'm am a citizen but here but naturalized citizens should keep their complaints to themselves because not one single person held a gun to OP's head forcing her to become a citizen of a country she finds so beneath her.

Nope. A citizen is a citizen and we have all the same rights as you. If I don’t like something I will use all avenues available to me to change it.

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Anonymous wrote:Immigrants can F off with their opinions especially is they’re living off of my tax dollars in any way. I could care less. And pick up your garbage.

You’re so ignorant. You don’t realize that in order to become permanent residents (first step in becoming a citizen) you have to sign and affidavit and someone has to financially vow for you. There are exponentially more people like you living off the public tit. Uneducated, bitter Americans using as as straw man to cover up their own prejudices and inadequacies.

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Had a friend who for YEARS desperately wanted to become an American citizen and eventually did so. She was incredibly positive and upbeat about the U.S. and couldn't wait until her citizenship was finalized.

As soon as she did I noticed a strange phenomenon.

She joined several social groups of people from her country/Europe in general. She sought out expats from her country to befriend. I saw less of her because her preference was to spend her free time with Europeans, and of course I wasn't invited being a lowly American.

She even went so far as to find a new job, working for a boss who was formerly European.

She began a steady campaign of bashing America/Americans and how ignorant we were, how "uncivilized" this-and-that was, how much better Europeans are. Her social media posts were all about her native country and how wonderful it was.

At one point I'd had enough. We were at lunch and she was on her little anti-American tirade again and I point-blank asked her if she hated it here/us so much, why was she so desperate for YEARS to become a citizen and why did she follow through on it? She had no answer. Just stuck her smug nose in the air.

My final salvo to her (though she didn't know it at the time) was she needed to remember SHE was now one of those horrid Americans she detested so much. And oh by the way, next time she was in Europe I suggested she go visit one of the American cemeteries there, and think about all those ignorant, uncouth American boys who made sure she and her ancestors weren't born under the Nazi's thumbs.

I ghosted her after that. Haven't missed her a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in Healthcare and I am the only US born person in my department. All of my coworkers talk about how much they hate it here! The food is a special complaint but also they complain about oversexualized culture and the men complain about women in the workforce. All of these except food should be verboten topics but I don't rock the boat. Occasionally I've asked why they're even living here and it's always "great money".
As an aside the higher ups were planning to bring in pizza to show their appreciation. I said that no one but me would eat it (last year they all refused it) and they really ought to order another type of food if they wanted people to enjoy it. We ended up with nothing.

Over sexualized culture? Where did they immigrate from? Salt Lake City? We are basically sexually repressed.

I’ve heard this too. This man explained to me how his sisters weren’t like American girls, they were conservative about sex. He said it like it was a common opinion. He was from Eritrea.

I still don't know we allow women out of the home unescorted. And don't get me started on driver's licenses. It just a slippery slope. Next they will want to hold political office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had a friend who for YEARS desperately wanted to become an American citizen and eventually did so. She was incredibly positive and upbeat about the U.S. and couldn't wait until her citizenship was finalized.

As soon as she did I noticed a strange phenomenon.

She joined several social groups of people from her country/Europe in general. She sought out expats from her country to befriend. I saw less of her because her preference was to spend her free time with Europeans, and of course I wasn't invited being a lowly American.

She even went so far as to find a new job, working for a boss who was formerly European.

She began a steady campaign of bashing America/Americans and how ignorant we were, how "uncivilized" this-and-that was, how much better Europeans are. Her social media posts were all about her native country and how wonderful it was.

At one point I'd had enough. We were at lunch and she was on her little anti-American tirade again and I point-blank asked her if she hated it here/us so much, why was she so desperate for YEARS to become a citizen and why did she follow through on it? She had no answer. Just stuck her smug nose in the air.

My final salvo to her (though she didn't know it at the time) was she needed to remember SHE was now one of those horrid Americans she detested so much. And oh by the way, next time she was in Europe I suggested she go visit one of the American cemeteries there, and think about all those ignorant, uncouth American boys who made sure she and her ancestors weren't born under the Nazi's thumbs.

I ghosted her after that. Haven't missed her a bit.

Americans like you have such fragile egos. You constantly need to be jerked off about what a savior and a shining light you are to the rest of the world. I’ve been a citizen now for 25 years and love this country for a lot of reasons but am not dissillusioned about the shortcomings too. I’m equally not disillusioned about why I left my country of birth but I didn’t come here to completely give up my culture and heritage.

[Anonymous]

not really, what pissed me off is people compain about the problems Americans is having now, while acting everything was perfect from 2017-2020...