Swinging in relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried it with a previous serious bf. He was mostly pushing it. It ended up backfiring completely.

What happened? Is that what ended the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tried it with a previous serious bf. He was mostly pushing it. It ended up backfiring completely.

What happened? Is that what ended the relationship?

DP and based on several years worth of reading free online erotica, what happens in these situations is that the woman has a fabulous time with a fabulous new partner and her old partner feels jealous, insecure, and also pathetically turned on. Usually the story ends with the old partner sitting outside the room alone listening as he hears his wife/girlfriend having the time of her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What might make this more appealing / possible for many married women would be a one-time tryst with another person/couple at a vacation resort.

This scenario would remove nearly any possibility of “being found out.”

It would also reduce the chance of continued attachment to someone outside the marriage. Safer-sex would, of course, be a prerequisite.

That’s why women do it all the time on “girls trips.”

[Anonymous]

I also date only attractive men, but it takes 6 moths to sift through the plevel to find what I want on a combination of looks and being an interesting person to date. I cannot imagine seeing a random man and wanting sex with him on a spot, never happened to me in entire life!

It takes six whole "moths", huh? You should use some of this time to buy a spellchecking app.

80% of US population at any age group is just unattractive, and DMV area is full of boring ugly paperpushers of both genders. And no, it's not true that your DH can easily find a beautiful chick on a side. The market is vast, but it's full of subpar product.

We need to see a site for this "80% of the population" statistic. How do you know it is not easy for someone's DH to find a beautiful chick, either on the side or right out in front?

How do you know you are not the "subpar product"? Do not say it is because men hit on you. We have all established that multiple men hitting on a woman does not ensure she is even decent, let alone attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, there is a big difference between having sexual encounters as a couple with another couple in a private setting vs going to a sex club where there are lots of people. The former seems to be more of sexual exploration. I would imagine the latter is more for people who have exhibitionist tendencies?

both scenarios are immoral

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I am that weird man in the modern era. I will never be able to have sex with my wife again if she lets another man fu**k her. And for the swingy women out there, it doesn't bother you seeing your man giving it the another woman on all 4s. Ya'll are a bunch of sexually liberated people let me tell ya lol

You are Not weird, you are Normal. These are not sexually liberated people, these are people without morals

Ok, grandma, you spoke your piece but, now will you PLEASE GO TO BED?!?

Just because someone doesn’t swing, that makes them grandma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: is going to a strip club with one’s spouse just as bad?

its not as bad, but bad enough to be in trouble in hereafter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me, there is a big difference between having sexual encounters as a couple with another couple in a private setting vs going to a sex club where there are lots of people. The former seems to be more of sexual exploration. I would imagine the latter is more for people who have exhibitionist tendencies?

both scenarios are immoral

I'm not poly but it's not immoral for one to be like that. Not everyone is christian or has to follow your so called moral compass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

Advice from someone in the community: don't.

Even if you control for your spouse, your swing partners are always unpredictable.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine anything less appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I am that weird man in the modern era. I will never be able to have sex with my wife again if she lets another man fu**k her. And for the swingy women out there, it doesn't bother you seeing your man giving it the another woman on all 4s. Ya'll are a bunch of sexually liberated people let me tell ya lol

You are Not weird, you are Normal. These are not sexually liberated people, these are people without morals

Ok, grandma, you spoke your piece but, now will you PLEASE GO TO BED?!?

What a clumsy retort. Swinging is generally something the olds do. It's not a young person's activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: is going to a strip club with one’s spouse just as bad?

its not as bad, but bad enough to be in trouble in hereafter

Hereafter? Like God cares if you went to a strip club with your spose?
You have to be kidding about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: is going to a strip club with one’s spouse just as bad?

its not as bad, but bad enough to be in trouble in hereafter

Hereafter? Like God cares if you went to a strip club with your spose?
You have to be kidding about this.

They probably mean risks in threesomes or foursomes. There are in fact cases where someone claimed rape when it didn't go as expected