Anonymous wrote:The actual day is celebrated individually with whatever parent has the birthday that year (the other parent will just do something the next day they have the child).
Both parents attend birthday parties. I've hosted some at my house and some at a venue. I find it's fairly easy to ignore (not in a rude way) my ex because I'm busy doing other things. We split the costs for a venue or entertainment and if I host I usually ask him to order the pizza or pick up drinks.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In the beginning we did the "I will cook whatever you want for dinner" thing and ExDH was not there. He would show up for the birthday party and it would be tense and awkward. That lasted about a year.
Then it wasn't awkward at the parties. It took maybe 3 years before we decided to go out to dinner, and invite him. That was only mildly awkward, but well-hidden from the kids. Then the awkwardness faded.
ok so time heals it sounds like. we had our family party and it was just sad for everyone when former spouse left the family home after cake and candles. good to hear you were able to hide adult issues from kids. i am not sure that were good at that.
Anonymous wrote:In the beginning we did the "I will cook whatever you want for dinner" thing and ExDH was not there. He would show up for the birthday party and it would be tense and awkward. That lasted about a year.
Then it wasn't awkward at the parties. It took maybe 3 years before we decided to go out to dinner, and invite him. That was only mildly awkward, but well-hidden from the kids. Then the awkwardness faded.