I’m the OP. I’m not this at all and I live in the Midwest. |
We do not. It's for our enjoyment, not an Airbnb |
Not if they come and post on DCUM about it, we don’t. |
I’m the Op. ours actually is both. |
Easy to say when you don't have a 2nd home. I have a friend who literally always asks for 2-3 weeks to stay and thinks bringing vegetables from their garden is a good gift. When they come to town and stay other places they don't even invite us to meet up with them. Feels very one sided when the only time we see them is when they are at our place and want to bring their whole family with them. |
|
People have reading comp issues. A trip was planned for a weekend several weeks ago, which was canceled due to bad weather. Then, out of the blue they’re asking OP to just let them use the house for some weekend at a time OP is out of town. I would just say “we actually just rented it for that weekend so it’s not available. Sorry!” And if they ask again, I’d tell them by phone or in-person, “but you’re not like a Renter, you’re our friend! We want to spend that time with you, and obviously we don’t want to like, Charge you, like you’re some Renter!” This gives them an opening to offer to pay rent so they can use it without you, at which point you refer them to the website to rent it officially, “just so we can have a record of when it was rented out” (thus availing yourself of the regular protections you have with renters). I’d also start inviting them out a little less frequently for a whole, so the house stops feeling quite as familiar to them, and they stop thinking of it as their own, however subconsciously. Make some changes too if you’ve wanted to. |
Great advice thank you! |
Hell no. |
I completely understand now why people are quiet about 2nd homes. You never realize how many takers there are until you have one. |
i haven't read the 17 pages of replies.
We own a second home at the beach and let friends stay there for free. I do ask for a few hundred bucks for utilities if they're staying for a week. (I don't like their stays to cost me money---we have 3 college kids and not a whole lot of spare cash.). We don't have a regular cleaner as we don't Airbnb the place so the understanding is that they'll also clean before leaving. We've been doing it like this for 8 years and so far no issues at all. I'd rather have the house be used than to sit empty. |
We have a second home that we don’t rent out. We have let a few people stay at it. They are ones who are pretty high strung and we knew they would take good care of it. More often, we invite people when we are going. It is kind of weird to have people stay there when we are not. It has all of our stuff and our kids have their rooms, etc. |
Previous poster again. I could have written this post as well!! It gives me great joy to know that quite a few of our friends have enjoyed our house over the years and have made their own memories there. It's a happy place a few blocks from the ocean. We feel very fortunate to have purchased it when we did. It was a lucky move the year after hurricane Sandy. |
Yes, it makes me ecstatic to give up a prime rental week, and not use it myself, for people who don't respect the place as their own and expect to use it every year for free. Here, let me move my things out for you so you can move in. Why don't you take the whole summer? On me! We can deliver groceries by hand, too. Let me know what you need. I especially love paying your cleaning fee. Because doormat. What else do you expect for free? By all means, name it! We didn't buy the house for us, we bought it for you. Everything is for you. When can we deliver the keys? So you want keys to all the house, or just one? This thread takes the cake. Y'all think people are thinking about you, when they have their own families, and their own issues first and foremost, to tend to. GMAB. |
Huh. You don't get it, do you? We don't do this so others think about us. We do it because we care about our friends. More than once we've had friends stay there that (either known to us or unknown until after the fact) were going through a really hard time (financially or health wise). When we're not using the house we don't Airbnb it. I'd much rather have it used vs. sitting empty. We're lucky if we're there a month across all summer weeks. In almost a decade we've never had friends leave deck furniture out, break things or otherwise not take of the property. We can control the thermostat remotely so we'll check to make sure the air is off when people leave. It's really not a big deal. Our lives are super busy. It this was a source of hassle or stress we wouldn't do it but it really has not been. |